Rec | DESIRE IS THE ROOT OF ALL SUFFERING

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ngl I sure want a lot of confusing and contradicting things rn and I think the option that brings me the most peace and the least disappointment is inaction. tbh the last few months ive been kind of a total monk and until recently I forgot how to want. im so used to the feeling of vague emptiness when it comes to my desires (or even just plain contentment), that 2 want something feels... unusual and strange and kind of makes me feel like im being a massive freak all over again however I believe in my own capacity 2 sort it all out

@disjenyamembra

4d ago

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@athenainsight

this is so interesting!! i was just talking with my mom about the buddhist belief that attachment is the root of all suffering.

4d ago

@disjenyamembra

@ATHENAINSIGHT i have bpd and a lot of methods for coping with it are based on buddhism. for me personally i cannot avoid desire (im not sure anyone can) but it's freeing 2 know im free 2 choose my own path and that i don't have 2 be ruled by my emotions. i think there are a ton of useful ideas found in all sorts of places

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