I deal with a sort of lack of emotional object permanence. If my friends haven't shown or said they like me recently, I easily convince myself they never did. And if it's been a while since I've done something scary, I worry I don't have it in me to do so, even forgetting that I ever did. And I forget how well things typically go, especially after something bad has happened. It's hard not to feel like since my anxiety was right about this big thing going really badly, then it's going to be right about everything. But it's not!! It rarely is!! And if it is, I can deal with that!! Life moves on! It's never that bad!
May 31, 2025
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when im dreading smth. and it literally never is
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You’ve been wanting to hang out with people more. You did the brave thing of asking people to hang out. Now the fear that has kept you from doing this is being super loud. To be expected! Buying into the fear is not going to get you what you want. Each time you act bravely, that part of you grows. What does this anxiety look like? Does the fear look differently? What would happen if you could comfort it?
Do some classic CBT- instead of all the horrible what ifs, what if it goes amazingly well? What if you make a new connection that feeds your soul?
Think of some mantras for yourself. Repeat them over and over. Each time you start to feel anxious, take a nice deep breath (exhale longer than inhale) and remind yourself.
Everything you want is on the other side of fear. And I believe you are brave enough to do it!!
Apr 22, 2025
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dates, parties, big trips, presentations. when I have something coming up that I'm anxious about, I try to reframe it in my head as something to look forward to instead of fear. Being a little nervous can prompt you to prepare for something, but it really works to realize that worrying not only does more harm than good -- it doesn't do any good at all. have faith in your ability, get excited about a new experience and let the adaptable and resilient future you handle the rest
Feb 27, 2024
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this photo is from september 2018 and I still haven’t seen anything like it since
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That’s just not what we’re doing here
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Did you know that the music used in the “you wouldn’t steal a car” anti-piracy ad was pirated? Apparently the FONT was stolen too lmaoooooo the irony
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