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Whether it’s ur haircare, workout, schedule, skin product, way you shaved, it is so beautiful to just have the ease of trust in what you do
May 29, 2025
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Wear clothes that fit and drape well on your shape. Replace sloppy looking or worn out staple pieces with things that look a little more intentional and serious but are still comfortable and feel true to you (ex: instead of sweatpants wear pull-on cigarette pants). Wear fewer accessories and let the simplicity shine through. A nice signature scent might help.
Keep your skin clean, moisturized, and exfoliated (try peel pads like the ones from First Aid Beauty or Nip/Fab). Wear sunscreen or whatever 🙄 If you wear makeup, do a tinted moisturizer, use an angled brush to fill in your brows with cool-toned shadow for some light definition, curl your lashes, wear mascara, wear a flattering shade of red lipstick and pat that lipstick onto your cheeks as blush—maybe do a shimmery pale or a smoky brown shadow tapped onto the lid with your fingertips (cream shadow is great for this) + some pencil eyeliner at the roots of the lashes and on your upper waterline.
Keep your hair looking as clean as you possibly can. If you’re using dry shampoo, do it preemptively before you go to sleep to absorb oil rather than in the morning when you wake up—spray it all along your roots and massage it into the hair in the morning. I actually do not brush my hair because it stretches it out and makes it lose its shape; I put it up in a bonnet when I go to sleep to keep it from getting tangled but still looking tousled, textured, and voluminous at the roots. I do comb through it with my fingers and I use a wet brush before I shower, as I rinse, and when I condition. My wash routine lately has been Trader Joe’s cleansing conditioner then Giovanni 2chic ultra moist shampoo!
Learn to style your hair with a round brush (I know this is a really tough one but it makes a big difference)!!!! I really enjoy the hot styling brush tools but they’re apparently damaging to the hair because they have no heat settings and they put a lot of tension and friction on the hair. If you have a few hundred to drop though I’ve heard great things about the Shark FlexFusion and FlexStyle. But whatever you do… use a heat protectant.
I style my hair if I have somewhere important to go but otherwise I do air dry— I put it up in a cotton T-shirt to soak up most of the water—and I use an air drying crème while it’s still damp. I think having a good hairstylist is also really important and will take you a long way. My relationship with mine is probably one of the most precious things in my life and I’ve been going to him for about three years now.
I’m honestly never going to look put together like other people seem to naturally be able to do and I’m always going to remain feral on some level but this is what works for me! My version of doing the bare minimum 🫶
Feb 4, 2025
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Taking care of yourself can feel hideously step-by-step now… scientific and ingredient-laden. Brushing your hair still feels whimsical and wild! It’s genuinely a therapeutic process for me, I think because I have a lot of hair and untangling it sometimes requires brute force and since there is a clear before and after to behold, it always makes me feel better if I’m feeling low. There’s a lot of propaganda around messy hair (Chloe S., French women), but life is about getting to know yourself. So if you’re feeling burnt out on cold little serums and vials of goo (all love though) or are tired of letting the rats' nests rule, try brushing your hair more. Caveat that you need to find the hair brush that works for you—doesn’t have to be made of boar bristles and mother of pearl,I like the OG brush from Olivia Garden over at Ulta.
Mar 27, 2023
I am so glad you asked because I have fine, 3b/3c curly hair and A LOT OF IT, and my whole life I have struggled to find products & a routine that define my curls but still give me volume without weighing my hair down or making it greasy! preface: this is a long one! But please read through everything, I promise it will change your life like it did mine!!
Judging by your profile picture, it seems like you may also have fine(ish)/medium thick hair? similar to mine. please bear in mind that hair type & thickness is a massive factor in how well certain products Will work. But I don’t think a serum is gonna be enough to get your curls defined & frizz-free /: the gels and creams youve tried may also be too thick!
My holy grail products:
*curlsmith weightless air dry cream (leave-in)
*innersense hair love prep spray (basically another leave in but in liquid form)
*curlsmith hold me softly style balm (actual styling cream)
*any type of *lightweight* oil or thermal protectant spray - I alternate between argan oil, joico’s k-pak color therapy oil, and Kenra’s platinum blow dry smell (smells sooo good)
^these products are very lightweight but work great together in holding your curls so that you can easily go days in between washing and styling.
Now the key is not only which products you use but how much of each product you’re using! This is important bc if you use too much of a product, especially one that is heavy, it’s going to weigh your hair down, making it greasy & limp - even still for lightweight products. so measuring the amount of product to use is key & here’s how to do it: start by parting your hair like you normally would and then bring the hair on either side of your part around to the front. then take your index finger & thumb and wrap your fingers around each section of hair shafts (WHILE WET). when your hair fits snug into whatever shape and size ring you’ve created with your fingers, bring your fingers down through the section of hair being sure not to break your fingers up, keeping the ring of ur index finger & thumb, and whatever shape/size your left with is the exact amount of product youre gonna want to disperse through your hair. you’ll use that same amount for every product you use, except for the oil at the end.
Actual routine:
With hair soaking wet, BEFORE brushing, I apply my leave-in to each section. Then go ahead and spritz each section with the prep love spray. mind you, the sections are just the hair on either side of my part - so two sections all together, basically both halves of my hair. after a few spritzes on either section, I then go in with a brush (any type of detangling brush is fine, idek which one I use, it’s from Amazon) and brush out all the tangles. Brushing after applying these products ensures that it all gets dispersed evenly. then, re-section your hair and go in with your styling cream, raking it evenly thru the hair. Now 2nd to last step is KEY. The denman brush (which u can get on Amazon) is whats really gonna ensure your curls are defined. Prior to this step tho, make sure your hair is still wet, or at least 85% wet. If it’s not, spritz it with some water bc brushing through dry hair of any degree is going to create frizz! What you do w the denman brush is essentially break up your hair into more, smaller, sections, and brush through each section with the denman brush. This can be time consuming at first but the more you do it, the quicker you get w it. I don’t bother to create a bunch of sections anymore - I just clip all of my hair up leaving the bottom layer out and kind of repeat that process, working my way up to the crown & front pieces. but the key is making sure that each section is small. once you’ve passed through each section w the denman brush, you can go in with a TINY amount of oil. then diffuse!!! you can also air dry but I find diffusing to make my curls look nicer.
I know that was a lot but it’s really quite simple when you put it into practice. Hope this helps! 🤍
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