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Wear clothes that fit and drape well on your shape. Replace sloppy looking or worn out staple pieces with things that look a little more intentional and serious but are still comfortable and feel true to you (ex: instead of sweatpants wear pull-on cigarette pants). Wear fewer accessories and let the simplicity shine through. A nice signature scent might help.
Keep your skin clean, moisturized, and exfoliated (try peel pads like the ones from First Aid Beauty or Nip/Fab). Wear sunscreen or whatever đ If you wear makeup, do a tinted moisturizer, use an angled brush to fill in your brows with cool-toned shadow for some light definition, curl your lashes, wear mascara, wear a flattering shade of red lipstick and pat that lipstick onto your cheeks as blushâmaybe do a shimmery pale or a smoky brown shadow tapped onto the lid with your fingertips (cream shadow is great for this) + some pencil eyeliner at the roots of the lashes and on your upper waterline.
Keep your hair looking as clean as you possibly can. If youâre using dry shampoo, do it preemptively before you go to sleep to absorb oil rather than in the morning when you wake upâspray it all along your roots and massage it into the hair in the morning. I actually do not brush my hair because it stretches it out and makes it lose its shape; I put it up in a bonnet when I go to sleep to keep it from getting tangled but still looking tousled, textured, and voluminous at the roots. I do comb through it with my fingers and I use a wet brush before I shower, as I rinse, and when I condition. My wash routine lately has been Trader Joeâs cleansing conditioner then Giovanni 2chic ultra moist shampoo!
Learn to style your hair with a round brush (I know this is a really tough one but it makes a big difference)!!!! I really enjoy the hot styling brush tools but theyâre apparently damaging to the hair because they have no heat settings and they put a lot of tension and friction on the hair. If you have a few hundred to drop though Iâve heard great things about the Shark FlexFusion and FlexStyle. But whatever you do⊠use a heat protectant.
I style my hair if I have somewhere important to go but otherwise I do air dryâ I put it up in a cotton T-shirt to soak up most of the waterâand I use an air drying crĂšme while itâs still damp. I think having a good hairstylist is also really important and will take you a long way. My relationship with mine is probably one of the most precious things in my life and Iâve been going to him for about three years now.
Iâm honestly never going to look put together like other people seem to naturally be able to do and Iâm always going to remain feral on some level but this is what works for me! My version of doing the bare minimum đ«¶
Keep your skin clean, moisturized, and exfoliated (try peel pads like the ones from First Aid Beauty or Nip/Fab). Wear sunscreen or whatever đ If you wear makeup, do a tinted moisturizer, use an angled brush to fill in your brows with cool-toned shadow for some light definition, curl your lashes, wear mascara, wear a flattering shade of red lipstick and pat that lipstick onto your cheeks as blushâmaybe do a shimmery pale or a smoky brown shadow tapped onto the lid with your fingertips (cream shadow is great for this) + some pencil eyeliner at the roots of the lashes and on your upper waterline.
Keep your hair looking as clean as you possibly can. If youâre using dry shampoo, do it preemptively before you go to sleep to absorb oil rather than in the morning when you wake upâspray it all along your roots and massage it into the hair in the morning. I actually do not brush my hair because it stretches it out and makes it lose its shape; I put it up in a bonnet when I go to sleep to keep it from getting tangled but still looking tousled, textured, and voluminous at the roots. I do comb through it with my fingers and I use a wet brush before I shower, as I rinse, and when I condition. My wash routine lately has been Trader Joeâs cleansing conditioner then Giovanni 2chic ultra moist shampoo!
Learn to style your hair with a round brush (I know this is a really tough one but it makes a big difference)!!!! I really enjoy the hot styling brush tools but theyâre apparently damaging to the hair because they have no heat settings and they put a lot of tension and friction on the hair. If you have a few hundred to drop though Iâve heard great things about the Shark FlexFusion and FlexStyle. But whatever you do⊠use a heat protectant.
I style my hair if I have somewhere important to go but otherwise I do air dryâ I put it up in a cotton T-shirt to soak up most of the waterâand I use an air drying crĂšme while itâs still damp. I think having a good hairstylist is also really important and will take you a long way. My relationship with mine is probably one of the most precious things in my life and Iâve been going to him for about three years now.
Iâm honestly never going to look put together like other people seem to naturally be able to do and Iâm always going to remain feral on some level but this is what works for me! My version of doing the bare minimum đ«¶
Feb 4, 2025
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caskeyc stop thatâs so CUTE!!! My friends all want to see my stylist when they visit me bc he just has the master touch. Vitally important relationship!!!
Feb 4, 2025
caskeyc me too I truly hope my hairstylist can continue to be mine until the day he retires and he has told me not to ever let anyone else touch my hair but him đ„čđ«¶
Feb 4, 2025
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âsatin hair bonnets at night - reducing friction while you sleep minimises so much frizz if you don't already use one i recommend. they're not too expensive I don't think ?!?
shampoo every second wash, co-wash every other wash. I also have a conditioner that i use to wash with, and then a separate leave-in conditioner that has a lighter texture so that my curls don't get weighed down (keeps my hair nice and voluminous). I sometimes dilute my conditioner with water if i feel that it's too heavy.
i also wash my hair very sparingly, only when it gets greasy. this might depend on your hair so probably not super useful, but for me, i find that the longer i am able stretch hair washes the better my hair is for it because my hair tends to be on the dry side and wetting it makes it more brittle and dry and more prone to frizz up. especially when i do shampoo washes, as shampoo completely strips my hair and scalp :( No heat if you can help it
also this is probably a cringe point to end on but i've found that learning to love the messy nature of my hair has been life changing. figuring out that frizz is not inherently bad has reduced my anxiety around my hair so much and i feel really confident about my hair most days and it's not because i'm using any particularly fancy products. that and i've also found a hair dresser who knows how to cut for my specific hair texture !!!!
shampoo every second wash, co-wash every other wash. I also have a conditioner that i use to wash with, and then a separate leave-in conditioner that has a lighter texture so that my curls don't get weighed down (keeps my hair nice and voluminous). I sometimes dilute my conditioner with water if i feel that it's too heavy.
i also wash my hair very sparingly, only when it gets greasy. this might depend on your hair so probably not super useful, but for me, i find that the longer i am able stretch hair washes the better my hair is for it because my hair tends to be on the dry side and wetting it makes it more brittle and dry and more prone to frizz up. especially when i do shampoo washes, as shampoo completely strips my hair and scalp :( No heat if you can help it
also this is probably a cringe point to end on but i've found that learning to love the messy nature of my hair has been life changing. figuring out that frizz is not inherently bad has reduced my anxiety around my hair so much and i feel really confident about my hair most days and it's not because i'm using any particularly fancy products. that and i've also found a hair dresser who knows how to cut for my specific hair texture !!!!
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Reducing heat and manipulation; heat style twice a week maximum if you can help it with the help of good heat protection (NO OIL PROTECTANTS!!! Kenra professional has my fave products - the blow out spray is amazing & worth its price) use sleep styles to protect your hair (im curly but do a blowout once a week- I maintain it by using a oversized pillow scrunchie at the top of my head pineapple style and my hair wrapped around the actual scrunchie- play around with it & how you sleep + how you want it styled in the morning + make sure that your hairline isnât getting tugged around) itll prevent damage from heat constantly, friction from sleeping and i promise will make mornings way easier.
Scalp care: Rosemary oil will be your best friend!! Studies came out that itâs similar to 2.5% minoxidil - which is a OTC hair loss treatment. Mix oil of choice w dried rosemary (add dried buckroot & mint if you wanna get fancy, olive oil and jojoba havent steered me wrong yet!!) I like to do a cold infusion which can take two weeks but itâs cheaper and I know whatâs going on my scalp. Put it on your scalp and massage for a few minutes, leave on for a few hours but if you want you can overnight, use a clarifying shampoo & follow up with protein/moisture depending on where you are in the cycle!
Taking care of my scalp, reducing hair & tbh- taking a solid multivitamin helped me a lot!
Products I luvvvvv; Kendra Blowout Spray Kendra Blowout Lotion Rosemary oil DIY Satin pillowcase & oversized scrunchie (you can find these on Amazon or Ulta! They will be life changersâŠ.)
Also- silk/satin scrunchies over regular hair ties, try to avoid any tension :)
Protein & Moisture; super important, these two helped w strength & retention protein treatment every 6 weeks followed by deep conditioner same day, hair mask once a week (something w NO protein!! just moisturizing)
Reducing heat and manipulation; heat style twice a week maximum if you can help it with the help of good heat protection (NO OIL PROTECTANTS!!! Kenra professional has my fave products - the blow out spray is amazing & worth its price) use sleep styles to protect your hair (im curly but do a blowout once a week- I maintain it by using a oversized pillow scrunchie at the top of my head pineapple style and my hair wrapped around the actual scrunchie- play around with it & how you sleep + how you want it styled in the morning + make sure that your hairline isnât getting tugged around) itll prevent damage from heat constantly, friction from sleeping and i promise will make mornings way easier.
Scalp care: Rosemary oil will be your best friend!! Studies came out that itâs similar to 2.5% minoxidil - which is a OTC hair loss treatment. Mix oil of choice w dried rosemary (add dried buckroot & mint if you wanna get fancy, olive oil and jojoba havent steered me wrong yet!!) I like to do a cold infusion which can take two weeks but itâs cheaper and I know whatâs going on my scalp. Put it on your scalp and massage for a few minutes, leave on for a few hours but if you want you can overnight, use a clarifying shampoo & follow up with protein/moisture depending on where you are in the cycle!
Taking care of my scalp, reducing hair & tbh- taking a solid multivitamin helped me a lot!
Products I luvvvvv; Kendra Blowout Spray Kendra Blowout Lotion Rosemary oil DIY Satin pillowcase & oversized scrunchie (you can find these on Amazon or Ulta! They will be life changersâŠ.)
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