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i think that being friends with people you may disagree with on some major things is ultimately a good thing.
if you only are friends with people you agree with you will be stuck in a silo and only be more drawn towards the views you already have. even if you disagree, seeing and understanding another persons perspective can bring a lot of insight to things you might not have thought about before.
beyond that if you understand their perspective and still disagree, diplomacy can help change their mind. you will almost never be able to change someoneâs mind about something by refusing to engage or arguing with them. i wouldnât say being diplomatic is the same as submission, because you canât influence someone without being diplomatic. you can try to understand their perspective and then bring up pieces of your own experience that contradict it. if you trust someone and they describe experiencing something that contradicts your beliefs, there are definitely some questions that are raised in your mind.
obviously there are limits but i generally always have a very open mind even if i disagree with someone a lot. daryl davis did a great talk on this describing how he convinced multiple KKK leaders to leave.
if you only are friends with people you agree with you will be stuck in a silo and only be more drawn towards the views you already have. even if you disagree, seeing and understanding another persons perspective can bring a lot of insight to things you might not have thought about before.
beyond that if you understand their perspective and still disagree, diplomacy can help change their mind. you will almost never be able to change someoneâs mind about something by refusing to engage or arguing with them. i wouldnât say being diplomatic is the same as submission, because you canât influence someone without being diplomatic. you can try to understand their perspective and then bring up pieces of your own experience that contradict it. if you trust someone and they describe experiencing something that contradicts your beliefs, there are definitely some questions that are raised in your mind.
obviously there are limits but i generally always have a very open mind even if i disagree with someone a lot. daryl davis did a great talk on this describing how he convinced multiple KKK leaders to leave.
May 27, 2025
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đnobody understands how freeing it is to truly be what others call âchill.â that mindset is the most freeing of all, to not judge others upon first glance is a gift only few are naturally blessed with. of course, many learn how to be more accepting and carefree throughout life and experience, and that is to also be accepted. though what i have seen on other social media platforms is just exhausting. the key to being a truly open minded person is remembering itâs their life, not yours. people can live it and express themselves however they like as long as it doesnât harm themselves and especially others. this can go from blue hair and piercings to dyed platinum hair and neon clothing. i used to call myself open minded until i realized it was only on one side. i was very accepting of alternative fashion and lifestyle that i absolutely ripped on things that are associated with the ânorm.â i came to the realization that even though i choose not to live that way, that does not make it okay to tell people what theyâre doing is wrong or stupid. they do it because it is THEIR life, i simply wouldnât do it because thatâs MY life and it does not align with me. this obviously goes further into topics of social issues and politics, though the first and most critical step to approaching deeper rooted misunderstandings regarding those topics would be the ability to properly argue. this should be basic knowledge, though tiktok and instagram (and media in general) is forgetting how to civilly debate. one must thoroughly hear out the other without insulting and/or interrupting, and then respond after the other has said their piece. active research of the points being discussed is crucial for all around understanding other perspectives. that advice goes for small arguments in comment sections to full on debates in professional settings. some may say this segment trailed off, though that only proves how far being open minded can get someone. we should not be closed off, calling things different to us âcringeâ or dismissing others for their different ways of life.
TLDR/important takeaway: never judge anyone unless their way of life negatively affects themselves and/or others. when in disagreement, always put yourself in the otherâs perspective and actively research.
TLDR/important takeaway: never judge anyone unless their way of life negatively affects themselves and/or others. when in disagreement, always put yourself in the otherâs perspective and actively research.
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đšI think it has a lot to do with problem-solving mindsets, and with my friend circles tbh we are all of the notion that disagreement is inevitable but also a learning process and involves basic respect for each others' opinions. Also we kind of all sense that everything is political/connected as-is.
I do think there's a lot of avoidance in society lately but if you want to get along better and understand each others' contexts aka build that friendship, you gotta have that space to debate.
I do think there's a lot of avoidance in society lately but if you want to get along better and understand each others' contexts aka build that friendship, you gotta have that space to debate.
Jan 24, 2025
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lots of other thoughtful responses here but simply put, no. if someone supports a harmful political figure, they likely believe that figureâs beliefs or they at least donât care enough about each impact of that politicianâs whole platform. we canât only think about how things impact ourselves; being kind to others is the bare minimum.
and there is nuance, like if someone believes we canât abolish the police but thinks the current system is bad, so they support a politician who increases social services (that prevent crime), thatâs different from someone who supports a politician that justifies police violence. the latter is highly, highly ignorant; but the former acknowledges social issues, which indicates space for further dialogue and growth
from an organizing perspective, i do believe in educating and calling in etc but those are learned skills and also a totally different thing from friendship and dating. you probably canât just âfixâ the views of friends or partners, and should not just leave that as a caveat of your relationship nor put up with their beliefs because you think you might be able to educate them.
article linked is specifically about dating but itâs a good, brief essay
Jul 14, 2024
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its like how you throw your phone around after youâve had it for more than a year
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đ§its crazy to me we are now at a point where major companies are actively putting measures into their products to make them hard or impossible to fix on your own. if you take it anywhere else to get it fixed your warranty is now voided. i just paid like $1000 for this phone. do i even really own it if nobody but the company i bought it from can fix it?
better yet you bring it to them and they will essentially do nothing but quote you for overpriced parts you donât need or more likely just tell you to buy a new phone. thanks apple!!!
better yet you bring it to them and they will essentially do nothing but quote you for overpriced parts you donât need or more likely just tell you to buy a new phone. thanks apple!!!
