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I think it has a lot to do with problem-solving mindsets, and with my friend circles tbh we are all of the notion that disagreement is inevitable but also a learning process and involves basic respect for each others' opinions. Also we kind of all sense that everything is political/connected as-is.
I do think there's a lot of avoidance in society lately but if you want to get along better and understand each others' contexts aka build that friendship, you gotta have that space to debate.
Jan 24, 2025
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I love talking about politics with my friends! I will say that my friend group is full of likeminded people. If there is a disagreement within the group I feel that because we have a similar mindset we are able to see where the other is coming from even if we donāt agree(?) if that makes sense. Ofc identity politics plays a big role which might create an idea of community or make others feel left out.
I think where we are in society today politics cant be avoided. Politics and policy is everywhere that even a simple conversation can be tied to so many aspects of it. I think discussing it with friends, people you trust and know have similar perspectives or ideas allows for a safe conversation (at least in my case).
Jan 24, 2025
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to set the stage here I organized as a college student/adjacent to a political cult (was never 100% brainwashed and pulled in) so this answer is going to diverge from many other answers. Iāll say in my opinion that trying to divide or merge person and politic is a zero sum game or detrimental for my personal life and political consequences at large
I donāt allow myself to get into situations where this would be remotely possible and that either comes off as extremely myopic or cushioned from reality but Iām choosing to accept that. In my friendships or making new friends I try to be a remotely ok judge of character to determine if political beliefs will inflame the friendship
no amount of brain power would make me consider changing someoneās mind on politics in a friendship but its likely im on the same page of people who are moderate or political disengaged to discuss freely about it
Hannah Arendt once observed that the personal and political spheres merging creates this space where we can no longer āactā in politics but we behave as economic actors or consumers. I think sheās on the money about this to this day - politics on the whole are very much boiled down to a market choice for me and not visible in my personal life much
Jul 14, 2024
i think that being friends with people you may disagree with on some major things is ultimately a good thing.
if you only are friends with people you agree with you will be stuck in a silo and only be more drawn towards the views you already have. even if you disagree, seeing and understanding another persons perspective can bring a lot of insight to things you might not have thought about before.
beyond that if you understand their perspective and still disagree, diplomacy can help change their mind. you will almost never be able to change someoneās mind about something by refusing to engage or arguing with them. i wouldnāt say being diplomatic is the same as submission, because you canāt influence someone without being diplomatic. you can try to understand their perspective and then bring up pieces of your own experience that contradict it. if you trust someone and they describe experiencing something that contradicts your beliefs, there are definitely some questions that are raised in your mind.
obviously there are limits but i generally always have a very open mind even if i disagree with someone a lot. daryl davis did a great talk on this describing how he convinced multiple KKK leaders to leave.
May 27, 2025
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it's totally cool to age and society still isn't equipped to deal with that.
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Sometimes you try your best and everything seems to hit the fan no matter how much you try, so you take that raincheck and take yourself out for a day.
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This is what I call it hahahah made by mums everywhere but the greased up version is sold along stalls in Mumbai. Two regular slices of white bread, buttered, and the middle filling is cream cheese with red onions, coriander/cilantro, tomatoes and some minced chillis. All veggies chopped mini cube size so they blend with the cheese. Toasted crispy.
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