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I wasted two years waiting for someone to change because he kept telling me he would, despite not showing that through his actions. if someone wants to change their negative behaviors because they don't want to hurt you anymore, they will- and you'll be able to see that growth in the way they treat you. and if they're not putting in any effort, they aren't the one for you.
May 24, 2025
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🩸save your energy! telling people how you want to be treated won‘t make them change. if they don’t learn it for themselves by experiencing it, they’re likely to keep doing it.
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🧣holding yourself back in response to someone else holding you back is only ever going to make it worse. if you are waiting to express your feelings/change/or whatever it may be, until the other person does it first, there’s a high chance they’re feeling the exact same way about you. stagnancy likes to stay that way, change happens when you choose it
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🔋Save your energy, don‘t focus too much on their intentions, actions speak louder than words.
So let them be, never change because you got treated badly, stay nice, treat people good, smile without expecting it in return. some people are just ugly on the inside and you should accept that and move on.
Redefine your boundaries, because not everyone deserves your time.
A lot of people are still projecting their insecurities and have a hard time to just be direct and honest about what they want and need.
I wasted a lot of time and energy trying to save many “friendships” because i appreciated the person but it was not worth, so i will let them be, but that doesn’t mean i will be available once they come back, quite the opposite.
Out of sight out of mind.
If they don’t know your worth, block them, ignore their text, archive the conversation, delete the number.
You know why ? Because one day you will meet people who will show you that whatever you were doing to maintain your previous relationships with people was never too much ! Was never clingy !
Be safe ! Love yourself first and focus on your own growth ! Forget those who did you wrong !
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📩seriously though I don't know how to make the first step in making friends on here but my friends can attest that I'm cool 😭 I just need to get over my leaving comments anxiety but until then just know yall can message me if you're ever looking for someone to chat with 🙌
May 19, 2025
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I was bullied a lot for my eye color as a kid (because me having very dark brown hair and very dark brown eyes made me look "evil", apparently) and, naturally, began to dislike them. but as I've gotten out of school and away from people who put me down, I've realized how insane it is to bully someone over their eye and hair color and grown to love the color of my eyes. I mean, they may be dark but there's nothing wrong with that. and I can take pretty pictures of my eyes too, I just have to blind myself and almost stare into the sun to do so lol
Feb 27, 2025
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📖recently, when I wake up in the morning and have time to kill, I've been spending a bit of time reading before or after I get myself ready to go about the day instead of sitting on my phone when I first wake up. I feel like it helps clear my mind for the day and it feels nice to not immediately scroll when I wake up like I used to
Feb 5, 2025