I wasted two years waiting for someone to change because he kept telling me he would, despite not showing that through his actions. if someone wants to change their negative behaviors because they don't want to hurt you anymore, they will- and you'll be able to see that growth in the way they treat you. and if they're not putting in any effort, they aren't the one for you.
May 24, 2025
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save your energy! telling people how you want to be treated won‘t make them change. if they don’t learn it for themselves by experiencing it, they’re likely to keep doing it.
May 16, 2024
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holding yourself back in response to someone else holding you back is only ever going to make it worse. if you are waiting to express your feelings/change/or whatever it may be, until the other person does it first, there’s a high chance they’re feeling the exact same way about you. stagnancy likes to stay that way, change happens when you choose it
Feb 8, 2025
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this might be pessimistic, but i think i’ve finally learned this lesson…
if you can recognize icky behavior in other people and leave at that first sign, you will have significantly more stable, meaningful relationships of any kind.
do not rationalize their poor behavior and give them the benefit of the doubt. move on.
i wish i started doing this sooner.
Apr 21, 2025
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seriously though I don't know how to make the first step in making friends on here but my friends can attest that I'm cool 😭 I just need to get over my leaving comments anxiety but until then just know yall can message me if you're ever looking for someone to chat with 🙌
May 19, 2025
I was bullied a lot for my eye color as a kid (because me having very dark brown hair and very dark brown eyes made me look "evil", apparently) and, naturally, began to dislike them. but as I've gotten out of school and away from people who put me down, I've realized how insane it is to bully someone over their eye and hair color and grown to love the color of my eyes. I mean, they may be dark but there's nothing wrong with that. and I can take pretty pictures of my eyes too, I just have to blind myself and almost stare into the sun to do so lol
Feb 27, 2025
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recently, when I wake up in the morning and have time to kill, I've been spending a bit of time reading before or after I get myself ready to go about the day instead of sitting on my phone when I first wake up. I feel like it helps clear my mind for the day and it feels nice to not immediately scroll when I wake up like I used to
Feb 5, 2025