i always say it in a sort of weird stilted tone to acknowledge the awkward phrasing, which makes people laugh, and also its a general enough question that it'll get people to nerd out about whatever they're obsessed with. which, to me, is always fun to listen to and a good jumping off point
1d ago
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I love to ask what people are currently âin toâ - meaning current inspirations, fixations, interests, etc.
1. Itâs subtle but revealing- I now know what you are interested in and get a hint at how you view life (ex. some interests can be perceived as narcissistic/surface level vs. thoughtful/curious) *Granted, not eveyone will have a good answer (or may not even be able to answer) and that will tell you all you need to know!!
2. Naturally we love to talk about ourselves and our passions so it will certainly keep the conversation going. Extra points for asking questions about what they say (maybe youâre interested, maybe youâre not- but at least itâs not awkward anymore)
18h ago
bonus points if they get the reference!
extra bonus points if they donât because then i get to dive into the full lore of this interview and my complicated feelings about azealia banks, which always makes for a fun conversation starter. i usually follow up by asking if they have a problematic fave because who doesnât?
iâve found you really canât go wrong talking about things that are deeply personal like music, movies, TV, or anything tied to culture. Theyâre all great entry points! yes, the key is to be genuinely interestedâask questionsâ but also give something back (because letâs face it, sometimes youâre the one making it awkward). I think awkwardness usually comes down to trying to find a balance of reciprocity. is someone talking way too much or way too little? learn to know when the conversation is worth sticking around for and when itâs time to excercise some of that beautiful free will we all have and bounce âđ˝.
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With the focus on them, being genuinely interested in what theyâre saying, with a little humor. Low pressure questions- hobbies, something youâre working on, things to do, favorite restaurants or something. Donât try too hard to force things if theyâre not moving along or theyâre not receptive. You donât want this to feel like a forced work icebreaker thing.
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4d ago
ive been evangelizing these two since october now, and i swear the speed run album has saved me several times over. i have not been so instantly certain an obsession would change my life since i was a 13 year old girl, but that feeling hit me like a truck after listening through the whole of the album on a plane. new life.
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An Agatha Christie I randomly read while sick. Classic, enjoyable, short, and id never heard of it so no spoilers. Recommend!
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