first thought of awkwardness, was of walking down the street and realising I was headed the wrong way. Happens to all of us, but I've embraced it as my brain being a silly human thing, and turn around, and hopefully go the right way!
In dates? Idk, kiss 'em and you'll realise alot of things, although I quite like awkward pauses there. In meeting new people generally? There's a billion of them and more on Earth, and language differences are about to make everything way more awkward. Embrace it. It's fun.
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I can’t think of a specific moment because I’m an endlessly awkward person. I think a lot of times when we’ve said the wrong thing upon meeting someone, or have a tendency to put our worst foot forward, we get too caught up in our own thoughts about it to recover. Let other people hold the awkward feelings for you, if they feel weird that’s their problem. But you don’t have to feel weird for trying to connect to others in your own way.
5d ago
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do it for the bit!
worst case scenario? they don‘t like you (thats ok!). maybe you didnt gain anything but you certainly havent lost anything either... actually id still argue that you *have* gained something by allowing yourself the self compassion to be imperfect (heh heh).
best case scenario? you‘re with good company and as time goes on with said good company, you realize what you perceive to be flaws are really not flaws at all, but a part of the wonderful weave of traits and quirks that makes up you (and everyone else too!) just maybe with a little less confidence.
rest assured, the confidence can be worked on. but attracting the life you want with people who inspire you and fill your heart with the warmth of 1000 suns starts with you being your most beautiful & authentic self! warts and all!
weirdos n freaks rise up!
Jan 29, 2024
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I used to have severe social anxiety to the point where I couldn’t look people in the eye. That was 20 years ago now (god, I’m getting old) and now many people mistake me for an extrovert. What has helped me most is practice. Talk to people, have the awkward moments, and discover you survive! It is vulnerable to open ourselves to others, but it’s also incredibly courageous. It builds your confidence and helps you to silence those anxious inner voices that tell you that every social faux pas is certain death.
Here are some lessons that I’ve learned.
- Test out your fears. Are they real or are people more generous/supportive than you expect? A lot of times, we’re being hard on ourselves because we’re afraid others will be hard on us. Just as often, people are generous, kind, and understanding. Let them surprise you!
- You feel more nervous/awkward than others will experience you. Or maybe they feel the same about themselves! Besides, it’s okay to be nervous. It just means you care and you’re invested in the interaction.
- If you feel stuck, ask people questions. Keep a couple of open-ended questions in your back pocket to get people talking. We love talking about ourselves and it opens doors for dialogue and connection.
- Slow down and leave space. Don’t feel pressure to fill every pause with a sound. Fill those pauses with your presence. Silence gives you time to think and digest what’s already been said.
- Conversation and connection are about discovery. Approach them with curiosity and see what’s possible! This isn’t about knowing your lines like a stage play. It’s improv, baby! Show up and see what unfolds.
- Finally, be gentle with yourself. No one is perfect. We all stutter and stumble, say dumb stuff, and even put people off! Keep trying to connect and you will find your people.
Good luck and much love to you! 💕
Apr 27, 2025
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it's totally cool to age and society still isn't equipped to deal with that.
Mar 27, 2024
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Sometimes you try your best and everything seems to hit the fan no matter how much you try, so you take that raincheck and take yourself out for a day.
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This is what I call it hahahah made by mums everywhere but the greased up version is sold along stalls in Mumbai. Two regular slices of white bread, buttered, and the middle filling is cream cheese with red onions, coriander/cilantro, tomatoes and some minced chillis. All veggies chopped mini cube size so they blend with the cheese. Toasted crispy.
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