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I can’t think of a specific moment because I’m an endlessly awkward person. I think a lot of times when we’ve said the wrong thing upon meeting someone, or have a tendency to put our worst foot forward, we get too caught up in our own thoughts about it to recover. Let other people hold the awkward feelings for you, if they feel weird that’s their problem. But you don’t have to feel weird for trying to connect to others in your own way.
4d ago
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first thought of awkwardness, was of walking down the street and realising I was headed the wrong way. Happens to all of us, but I've embraced it as my brain being a silly human thing, and turn around, and hopefully go the right way!
In dates? Idk, kiss 'em and you'll realise alot of things, although I quite like awkward pauses there. In meeting new people generally? There's a billion of them and more on Earth, and language differences are about to make everything way more awkward. Embrace it. It's fun.
3d ago
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do it for the bit!
worst case scenario? they don‘t like you (thats ok!). maybe you didnt gain anything but you certainly havent lost anything either... actually id still argue that you *have* gained something by allowing yourself the self compassion to be imperfect (heh heh).
best case scenario? you‘re with good company and as time goes on with said good company, you realize what you perceive to be flaws are really not flaws at all, but a part of the wonderful weave of traits and quirks that makes up you (and everyone else too!) just maybe with a little less confidence.
rest assured, the confidence can be worked on. but attracting the life you want with people who inspire you and fill your heart with the warmth of 1000 suns starts with you being your most beautiful & authentic self! warts and all!
weirdos n freaks rise up!
Jan 29, 2024
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Some people are just better at handling it than others. Remember that it’s likely nobody is thinking about you as much as you’re thinking about yourself! If people are judging you, this is something you can either learn and grow from if you do something legitimately wrong, or they’re just being rude and critical for no reason and that’s a reflection on them. Give others grace, patience, and the benefit of the doubt and hopefully they’ll do the same for you.
Not everybody will like you and that’s okay! And as much as we would like to think we can and as much effort as some may put into it, we can never truly control the way others perceive us. Find ways to develop self esteem and confidence that comes from within based off of traits you admire and respect about yourself regardless of what other people think.
I would recommend that you undergo DIY exposure therapy by throwing yourself into lots of social scenarios big and small that make you blush and shake and feel like you want to crawl out of your skin. Go into public places and force yourself to make pleasant small talk with strangers + share something small about yourself with them! Ask people about themselves! Go to a party or an event and make it a goal to talk to X number of people.
But also remember that you don’t have to share your whole personality with everyone you meet and depending on the context and circumstances it may not even be appropriate to do so. So maybe start with identifying aspects of your personality you want to show most consistently with everyone you meet and go from there!
May 16, 2024
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I love going to the grocery store with friends. We can chat while we shop, and it feels less overwhelming. There are the days where it’s a whole trip and we get coffee and lunch and people watch, but there’s also the times after work where a friend will stop by and we will both need things from the store, so we just both go and get the few things we need and then go home. Maybe 20 minutes of time hanging out but feels very worthwhile.
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I think it’s more normal than never wearing the same thing twice. It shows your personal sense of style and if you’re comfortable then you’re going to look better anyway. I also think with online culture now is the first time ever people would consider it weird to be caught on film in the same outfit multiple times. Plus if it’s a good fit then it’d be a shame to not let people see it often.
6d ago
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Get them tickets to their favorite band or take them to dinner, anything that can just be a memory.
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