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Do u like ur parents??
I like asking this at parties and on first dates and other introductory meetings. It's a pretty disarming question and usually elicits an honest answer. It's a gateway to much deeper convo about growing up and who the speaker is now. It has made a few people really uncomfortable though. I don't like to pry if they're off-put by the question. I usually follow-up with, yea I don't like mine either haha... (I like my flawed parents).
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@domi
May 20, 2025
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@mattshawsome
There's this line in Quiet Town from The Killers that makes me think of my parents whenever I hear it: "Every time I see my parents, in the prime of their life, offering their son the kind of love he could never put down..." -- Around age 20 I had a revelation: my parents are only human. I can't hold them to some godlike standard or expect perfection from them. Sure, they made tremendous mistakes in raising me. They were broken people themselves, reeling from the mistakes of their even more broken parents. But they did the best they could. They've come through for me so many times. And I've been able to come through for them. I'm coming to see that what is truly precious is the privilege of being able journey with people. Journey with them in their grief, anger, joy, mess ups, and silliness. Sometimes they get it right. Sometimes they get it wrong. Sometimes I definitely get it wrong! But we've stayed in it and it is has never been more beautiful. But that's just me and my particular parents. Different for everyone. - It took some work for me to get here. And I'd like to say "you're welcome" to those several therapists who are enjoying their beach houses because of me.
May 20, 2025
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@merel
@MATTSHAWSOME this made me cry.
May 20, 2025
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@piscesprincess
this is good to add to my list of creepy things to ask people (genuinely) love it
May 20, 2025
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@raj
@PISCESPRINCESS omg pls post this list
May 20, 2025
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@regularcucumber
I wrote a few paragraphs, realized I’m not in the mood to trauma dump, deleted it. My answer is no I don’t like them, but they disliked me first.
May 20, 2025
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@klorizza_xplainz_all
My parents were not perfect, no one is. But they were both truly best friends to me and taught me how to live Wisely and think Openly. I hold so much love and respect, honor and reverence for them both. Rest In Power, mom and dad. I commit the rest of my life to now saving our Holy Mother Earth for Our New Reality because life in this old reality is not worth living.
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@Rattlesnake
i love 'em. they both have their flaws but they are my parents. i am them, they are me.
May 20, 2025
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@klorizza_xplainz_all
@RATTLESNAKE “I am them, they are me.” So true and beautiful… we‘re always connected to our parents - intrinsically intertwined throughout space and time.
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