so for background i was born and raised in morningside heights near columbia university. i was on a first date and i was telling them about my neighborhood and how i think it's kind of been ruined by "columbia kids." they asked me to explain and i went on this whole rant about the spirit of the neighborhood not being compatible with their vibe, blah, blah. they don't seem to understand but they aren't from the city so i figure whatever and keep it pushing. at the end of the night i say, "i'd love to hang again" and they respond, "i don't think so. i don't date racists." and i'm like "what?" and they say, "i don't know what you have against Colombians but i think you really need to examine where that toxicity is coming from inside of you." they disappeared into their apartment before i could even respond :(
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so hear this shit out
two years ago I came to visit my family in Colombia but decided to stay with my moms childhood bestfriend. Always knew she had a son but we were young when we met and we never talked so i didn’t think much about it. IMAGINE MY SURPRISE WHEN THE MOST FINE ASS MAN IN THE WORLD GREETS ME AT THE DOOR. Anyway his mom has him take me to the mall and buy me lunch and also take me out to a club that same weeken. Everything was friend vibes up until I was dancing with him some reggaeton (donde se baila bien pegadito) and dancehall or wtv AND THEN AND THEN he whispers in my ear “te puedo dar la vuelta?” BASICALLY ASKING TO TURN ME AROUND AHHHHH AND LIKE DANCE WITH MY BACK (and ass) ALL UP ON HIM
anyway nothing happened that night (even though we were home alone) cause like idk maybe im dense. After i left colombia we were chatting a bit on whatsapp BUT THEN HE LEFT ME ON DELIVERED.
Whatever i didn’t think much of it cause who am i to expect someone in a whole other country to continue speaking to me. A whole year goes by and I come back to the city spring of 2024 for a wedding for my moms bestfriend so surprise surprise he was there with his mom who was also bestfriends with the groom and bride. We ended up dancing again (more modestly this time) still thought it was friends vibes cause idk man I WAS CRUSHING HARD THO.
After the wedding he comes up to me and asks if i want to go clubbing. I say yes cause like WHY NOT. We get to his place (which i was again staying at cause his mom is my mothers LITERALLY CHILDHOOD BESTIE) i get ready, throw in whatever raggedy clothes i managed to bring on the trip. AND POP OUT. he ends up taking me to a club called DAKITI. We pull up, get drinks (i offer to pay cause like i have an american job and colombian pesos translated to dollars is lowkey cheap n i felt bad n I THOUGHT WE WERE JUST FRIEND VIBES) anyway i end up getting lit. I’m honestly not sure if he’s lit too but fuck it. Anyway we ended up dancing and he was fucking BREATHING DOWN MY NECK AND ALL UP IN MY FACE and jesus christ i kept hiding my face cause I was so nervous. I end up giving in and looking up at him (im 5’1 he’s gotta be like 6’0 or 6’1) and BITCH WE KISSED NOT ONLY KISS WE MADE OUT THE WHOLE NIGHT AND DANCING HOT AND HEAVY FR. bueno. We stay at the club dancing and making out until like 5am, we get a car home and he asks the driver if he could sit in the back with me (in colombia ubers are illegal so someone has to sit in the front seat so it looks like it’s a normal car ride) and the driver says no </3 but i end up putting my hand on the center console and si did he so we were holding hands the whole way. I won’t talk about what happened once we got home 👀 pero safe to say we was feeling each other. Once i left his place/colombia to go back home we were back to talking in whatsapp for a couple of months and it was super fun but it honestly came to a stop cause i noticed he was taking a while to answer and idk i felt like maybe he was just not that interested.
ALL THIS BACK STORY JUST TO SAY
i’m back in colombia. Not only have i stayed at his house BUT AT HIS GRANDMAS HOUSE (again his family loves me and my mom cause they grew up with my mom and also used to take care of me when i was younger) his aunts, cousins, grandma, and MOTHER, love me to death but my friends this isn’t a love story :(
WELP, as the test of time would prove, my colombia bae now has a gf <\3
I found out about it last october cause i saw him post her and i IMMEDIATELY unfollowed him. Half cause i didn’t want to see him and other half cause i didn’t want his girl to have ANYTHING to worry about.
Spent christmas with him and his family, we only said hi and bye and merry christmas.
He’s currently out of town with friends and his gf and i’ve been spending time with his mom at their place. and ALSO hes trying to move to MY HOME TOWN to get his pilots license. so as he’s spending time with his boo thang out of the city me, my mom, and his mother are setting him up with usa pilir connects and what not. ITS SO WEIRD.
Anyway, such is life im excited to leave
colombia so i can stop existing in his four walls and move on with my life
(plot twist: i might be moving to colombia after I graduate in may so i’ll be nearby)
Hope yall enjoyed my story time <3
Jan 8, 2025
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was actually a decent first date fwiw, but he took me to a coffee shop that was notably kind of dark and dingy. i made a comment about it lightheartedly and he said "haha yeah sorry, i actually brought you here to be human trafficked"
i should have known that date would blossom into a 7 month long distance toxic situationship but alas i never saw it coming
Feb 18, 2024
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i was going on a first date to some bar and i walked in, scanned the place and was like ok there he is and so i walked over to him and was like hey how are you?!! im sydney :) and he looked at me like i was truly insane and then it hit me…….he was not the right guy and so i just had to shamefully find my guy and then tell him what just happened to me
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