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Part rec, part documenting my headspace right now.
My last few moves in my city have been chaotic and unwanted, to say the least. After an incredibly stressful loss of my last apartment, I was so privileged to have been able to spend my last three years living alone for the first time in my life, healing myself and figuring out how to navigate life coming out of active survival mode.
I leave my little studio apartment in less than two weeks to move into a new place, choice I got to make for myself, and a living situation I get to plan for, rather than having been forced into.
I've always been able to make a home for myself anywhere I go, but this is the first time I get to do it because I made the choice to, not despite my circumstances.
It's feeling good!
May 18, 2025
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my partner and i were presented with the opportunity to move into a friend’s slightly larger and more amenitied apartment up the block, but we’d have to break our lease to do so lol
listed our apartment on facebook marketplace to see if anyone was interested in signing the lease so we could move, essentially just putting out feelers and seeing what happened. did not expect to receive dozens upon dozens of messages! i scheduled tours and showed like six people around, all of whom were like where can i sign! and i called our landlord twice.
met with the landlord of the new place and got the paperwork….. truly in the final steps…. only to get home and realize, you know what,,, we’re staying here! and it was literally such a relief to say it.
did it take hundreds of messages from people begging for me to leave my apartment to truly viscerally process that i’ve got a good thing? perhaps!
but i think it was more that i had been in a scarcity mindset of like, “when we move and i have more space i’ll be able to… make the art i want; really feel at home; feel more comfortable; etc.” and when i really dug into those feelings about it, i simply knew that my home right now presents a growth opportunity to work creatively with the space i have.
didn’t want to admit to myself that i was in that space of forcing things because i initially just wanted to move so badly, i was literally bypassing my felt experience and like, true reactions.
i also felt like it fell into our laps and was this once-in-a-lifetime thing. but really trying to now reinforce that a two bedroom w a dishwasher, balcony, and some bedrooms that look out onto the neighbors’ walls is not inimitable. and i want to approach this process from a space where im resourced and generally tranquil.
so i’m happy and i’m not moving and im going to buy myself an $8 latte this morning to celebrate!!!!
Apr 25, 2024
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this March i moved out from my parents' to my own appartment, at first it was scary bc i didn't think I would be able to afford living by myself and keep my two cats, sometimes we're tight on money but so far it's been the best year I can think of, I've learned a lot from living on my own and I was able to do lots of things that I couldn't if I had stayed with my parents, like focusing on my own and on my projects and travelling with friends I'm really looking forward to next year <33
Dec 31, 2024
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Okay, so I'm moving out! I'm so glad. I have no plan and I have no money but it's happening. 😅☺️
Any advice on how to move forward?
Jan 18, 2025
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After three, I say something like, "oh, wow" or if it's my partner, I jokingly say "stop it".
May 2, 2025
Eileen by Ottessa Moshfegh and Girl On Girl: How Pop Culture Turned a Generation of Women Against Themselves by Sophie Gilbert.
I'm really enjoying both, despite how many times Girl On Girl punches me in the gut with lines like, "Movies in the aughts hated women."
May 21, 2025
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Shows are impossible to go to, now. The entire Ticketmaster platform is filled with scalpers that TM choose to foster, rather than ensure that fans can see artists perform. (Yes, I'm salty because yet another performer's presale is on and tickets are "Verified Resale" for $500+ each.)
I just want so badly for everyone to stop spending thousands of dollars on shit seats so the industry caves in on itself and makes way for progress. Concerts are not supposed to be this way, and we aren't getting there if people keep throwing a $2000 ticket on their credit card for 300-level seats.
Don't be the frog boiling in the water, HOP OUT OF THE POT!
Apr 23, 2025