break ups suck ass, it's important to mourn the loss. This might not help you, but when i was broken up with, i told my self that i'm a boat. This boat is still, it's sat in the middle of the ocean (the unknown) and it's just bobbing up and down. It doesn't need to go anywhere, it doesn't need to know how it got there, it's just there. After time, you'll want to start getting some wind in the sails and aiming for land, and so one day, you'll start moving on.
I'm nearly 7 months from my break up and i still think about and of her everyday. It hurts but this is just the way i'm dealing with it. crying and journaling helped me!
May 14, 2025
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I like to remember that time is on your side, it will get easier as time goes by just for nature of it. So focusing on going through the day-to-day the best you can while being kind to yourself and letting the days past is what helped me.
It’s not easy, you have to go through the grief to come up on the other side.
But stick with the things that make your present more bearable and you WILL come up on the other side.
For me it was doing things for myself: listening to music, visiting close friends, cooking for myself, going on walks on nature, spending time alone and bored and finding new things I liked and enjoying my own company was life changing.
The loneliness is rough but it can be a great teacher (at least I like to think something had to come out of all that pain).
I guess it really depends on the break up the narratives you are telling yourself right now, but if you can be mindful about them, observe them, and let go of trying to understand and control everything they get less cruel. Right now you just need to survive and receive some kindness, later on you can build the story around it (Without the fog of the pain around it).
And for the love of god cut contact with them, their family and friends, at least for a while. rebuild yourself outside their zone of influence. Show vulnerability if you can, it can bring great support and lending ears, BE KIND TO YOURSELF (although have in mind sometimes over indulgence is not kind).
You will get through it, time is on your side.
Apr 18, 2024
journaling always helps me during a break-up. you can share your feelings/write them letters that you don’t need to send. make lists of things you want to remember/learn from the relationship. Write lyrics yourself or lyrics of songs that remind you of them.
Feb 17, 2025
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there’s so many different things going through your mind when a breakup happens and i don’t think there’s this one thing that will make it go away faster, but you can try focusing on yourself and things you like...you can find new hobbies, new friends, new places!
Cause yeah, you’re single now and it kinda sucks but it wont suck forever lol
idk what im saying, but bottom line is it gets better the more you put love towards yourself instead of them, you’ll realize how much more you deserve.
Go crazy🫨🫨
Apr 9, 2025
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noticing life and slowing things down has helped with every stress my body has, it's also got me going on walks to places i've never been before. I go alone and do walkie talkies sometimes too, which is like an audio journal log. i also get some cool pictures out of it.
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