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been living alone since 2022 and i’ve come to enjoy it a lot but it def takes some adjusting. here’s some stuff that’s helped me appreciate it and also alleviate some of the downsides: 1. DECORATE!!! you no longer have to share a space, go wild with making it your own! put all your pretty lil things out on display, get some art for the walls, adorn your room with personal effects. your apartment is no longer simply your place of residence, it is an extension of yourself 2. Organize and maintain the space the only person who has to deal with your messes is yourself, but don’t let this make your mess tolerance go down. keep your space orderly and functional and enjoy the ritual of keeping your space maintained. if your space devolves to squalor, you will be the one to suffer. don’t let your space be neglected and then become a hostile environment to yourself. keep neat on the reg and treat your future self every once in a while with a deep clean. 3. Get out the house!! one benefit of living with roommates/family is having them provide reasons to be out an about. living alone means you’ll have to make your own reasons. if you’re a homebody like myself, there can be a big temptation to spend all your time in blissful solitude. but the line from solitude to isolation can be a fine one, so make sure that as well as inhabiting your space you also inhabit your locale. get to know your new neighborhood and find reasons to regularly be out of your space. make your space where you come to be recharged and renewed and not your default spot, you’ll appreciate it more that way. 4. pee with the door open who’s gonna stop you?????

@royallmonarch

Sep 18, 2024

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working through issues you have with your roomie instead of just moving out.

I spent a lot of time this past year contemplating moving out from my apartment that I share with my best friend. We have lived with each other since 2018, and have seen each other in every high and low and stuck together like glue regardless. However, over the past two years, we began to bicker a lot, stopped spending time with each other, and it just felt like there was too much resentment built up between us to continue living in the same space together. Long story short, we both ended up going through a lot of life changes and events in the last year. This all ended up putting things into perspective for the two of us. One day, after a particularly tough series of unfortunate events in both of our personal lives, we sat down in the living room and finally opened up about all of the things that had been causing tension in our friendship. Both of us were crying the whole time, because it really sucks having to talk about each other's bad choices and shortfalls, but it was a necessary pain in the end. We both came out of the conversation feeling like a load had been taken off our shoulders. Everything that needed to be said had been put out in the open. We both went on through the following months doing our best to work on what we needed to, so that we could continue coexisting in the same space. With time, the resentment we held against the other faded, and we slowly became friends again. Putting in the work was well worth it. Communication is incredibly important in every aspect of your life. It needs to be prioritized, regardless of how scary it is. We are all human, and all of us fall short. If you never bring up your concerns, you can't expect a person to ever change their behavior.

@starlet

Feb 17, 2025

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Living with your sister.

Living with my sister as an adult is the only living situation that has ever made sense to me and has been the best living experience. She is the best roommate I’ve ever had. And now I’m fearful of living with anyone else. My sister was born when I was 2, so before I moved to college we had 16 years in training of living together by growing up together. When you’ve known someone their entire life, you know them the best.   During my years of elementary I resented whenever she’d try to interject herself into my play dates, during puberty all I did was banish her from my room in horomonal rage, and in high school I was so busy with school and dance and the little social time I could carve out for my friends; that I barely saw her. But during lockdown I was unemployed and out of school so the only socialization I could garner, other than with my parents, was with my little sister. We smoked a lot of weed together in 2020, and that changed things. Now she tries to kick me out of her bedroom when I want to pester her with my daily musings and she just wants to chill. I’ve had many roommates before moving into an apartment with my sister almost two years ago. Most of those living situations and relationships combusted over: lack of communication, miscommunication, or poor communication. None of these has ever, or will ever cause my relationship with my sister to end, because she is my sister so naturally we say everything to each other with the utmost candor and bluntness and anything left unsaid is just mutually understood. Normal roommate arguments that sometimes lead to catastrophic arguments or ends of friendships are resolved within 10 seconds to 5 minutes with my sister. If we have a fight and she slams her door, within the hour she will be DMing me IG reels from her room. When we clean each other’s hair from the shower drain it’s less irritating knowing it’s the same DNA. It’s nice having an adult relationship with your sister because now you can talk about adult things: your fuck ass situationships, break ups, how mid the sex was, fears of the future and the present, etc. and you can watch the same music videos you watched as kids but in your own living room, on your own TV. You play the same old wii games on your old wii but in your apartment. The same games that you once played for entire full day periods as kids. She keeps me up to date on everything celebrity news-oriented because she’s on Twitter all day and I’m not, but she knows I appreciate being in the loop and knowing what’s of cultural relevance on any given day. You can judge each others life choices loudly and bluntly because you’re sisters and that’s what you’re supposed to do. And it doesn’t turn into long term resentment because you’re still sisters: She’s only 20: and she still makes brutal drinking mistakes me and my friends used to make–and some I’ve never made– so I’ve earned the right to judge her in an older sister way. And I’m only 22: so every date/situationship/sexual encounter I made in last year were all brutal in their own way… and she has earned the right to judge because she’s a lesbian. And my younger sister. I appreciate the judgement. She doesn’t understand why I entertain men undeserving of me and tells me to my face. and if I’m with a girl… she has harshly told me that I am not a lesbian because “I think and talk about men too much.” On the occasions she’s heard me cry or panic or spiral, she is actually concerned for my well-being, rather than how my mood state will affect her living situation. She knows when to text our mom because she knows she doesn’t always know how to help. I had a heart to heart with her and brought her wine the week of her break up. It’s comforting to live with someone who understands you and knows you completely and won’t let you not washing your dinner plate every-time kill a whole relationship. And I will admit, sometimes my little sister takes care of me and takes care of things here, more than I do of her and for her; which makes me feel guilty as an older sibling… but being taken care of by family also makes me feel at home in a city that I’m not even sure I can earnestly call home yet. But in this apartment, I live with my family, and clichè as it is: home is where the family is, where the heart is– and all these years later I’m back to sharing a bathroom with my sister who is my heart, and that does make it home.

@gabz

Mar 12, 2024

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Palermo, Italy

lived there alone for 3 months. read a lot of books, met a lot of interesting people, and took many bad pics on my digital camera which broke the moment i went back home

@yolk

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david lynch

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@yolk

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asking for bandaids

i loveeee going to the receptionist of an office building, to the bartender at a restaurant, the clerk at a clothing store, the assistant at the dentist, to ask them for a bandaid. i know they have them, and i want one. they always ask me what's wrong. sometimes they even ask me if i need help putting it on and i always say yes.

@yolk

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