Rec | BEING A NAIEVE LOVER GIRL DESPITE THE HORRORS

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BEING A NAIEVE LOVER GIRL DESPITE THE HORRORS

although I say I won’t share music anymore or try to find love, I know in my heart and soul this is something I’ll always do. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with trying. No matter how many times you fail or get ghosted, I don’t think you should let it dull the love in your heart. Or the potential for it. (Although these things do hurt over time). I wouldn’t possess the desire for love if it wasn’t meant for me!

@valoorie

May 13, 2025

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@gigis_revenge_

this exact debate plays out in my brain at least once a week but fully agree the point of life is to love and be loved so like why hide from yourself

May 21, 2025

@wakeuplmd

Someone much smarter than me said this "dating now is a competition of who can care less the most” and based on social media currently, they’re not wrong. Since when did it become not cool to try or make an effort and be sincere? I feel like social media rotted our heads and put too much emphasis on having aura and being nonchalant about shit and I‘m over all that tbh. Trying and authenticity is sexy and cool.

May 14, 2025

@choc_orange

@WAKEUPLMD I couldn’t agree more, its so gross, no ones obsessed with you because of how unbothered you are??

May 14, 2025

@valoorie

@WAKEUPLMD no because social media has fried so many brains. However I will alwaysssss stay chalant. Always. Regardless of what is “cool”.

May 14, 2025

@humblr

@WAKEUPLMD yikes correct but yay! can’t wait until being thoughtful and caring trends again because of us 🤩

May 15, 2025

@carolinebreeden

i know i commented on your post about never sharing music with men again…but i must say i wholeheartedly relate to this one. we must never let our light be burnt out!

May 14, 2025

@valoorie

@CAROLINEBREEDEN this is exactly the thing. The feeling of hurt will always happen when someone doesn’t want to connect the way we do. But the desire for love will always outweigh the hurt over and over again !!!

May 14, 2025

@valleygirl5678

im a lover girl who took L after L for yearsss before i met another lover girl & now we are happy as can be 💕 ur person is out there they will come when they are meant to :)

May 14, 2025

@thewarblerette

Lovergirls and boys are stronger than the fucking Marines!! 🫡

May 14, 2025

@humblr

This is so spot on I started crying. thank you for putting it into words 🤲

May 14, 2025

@valoorie

@HUMBLR this is exactly why I love this app so much. I am so glad you felt seen by this. We got this !!!!! ♥️♥️

May 14, 2025

@humblr

@HUMBLR speak the thing out that’s scary!

May 14, 2025

@humblr

@VALOORIE whoops, new here with the replies 😆 So grateful to be around like minded beings. Playlists as the love language 100%

May 14, 2025

@Precariouscaribou

our surroundings are so inept at fulfilling our needs and nature, which is why we keep feeling like the door is constantly being shut on us. But your spirit cannot be shut out like that! Let it permeate everything around you with your love!

May 13, 2025

@valoorie

@BOOKSHELFPUNK perfectly worded. Love that explanation so much !!!!

May 14, 2025

@gigis_revenge_

@BOOKSHELFPUNK no literally 🫡🥹

May 21, 2025

@glombroski

My hearts so full of love I can’t imagine not being a loverboy/girl. I’ve always been worried about being too much or coming off too strong? People have assumed I’m clingy too like no. I know the right person will match the vibe but until then I’m trying to direct that love towards myself. shout out to all the lover-people out there

May 13, 2025

@valoorie

@GLOMBROSKI YES! Like there’s a reason why being a lover-person comes so naturally to some people. It’s what we are meant to be !!!

May 14, 2025

@choc_orange

I don’t believe it’s naive to be a lover girl!! i think it’s just a sign of hope, Ive certainly learnt things from all of my dating experiences and won’t make the same mistake twice, but that doesn’t mean I won’t stop trying 🩷🩷

May 13, 2025

@valoorie

@CHOC_ORANGE exactly !!! I don’t speak from a lot of experience but as I date more, I find I get disappointed more. But the relentless hope is the only way to find the love we deserve !!!

May 14, 2025

@choc_orange

@VALOORIE yesss my mum always reminds me “ you’ve got to kiss a few frogs“ which I think i’m really exercising atm 😭😭

May 14, 2025

@tiff

this really is the outlook to have!

May 13, 2025

@valoorie

@TIFF being hopeful in this way is hard but it will be worth it I swear!!!

May 14, 2025

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