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I got to reset myself by getting up at a normal time, talking to a friend in person, going outside, and doing something physically productive that strengthened our friendship
And bonus points for knowing that that move was less stressful for her than my last move was for me—I want to die when I’m the one moving but it’s honestly NBD for me when I’m helping someone else move, so I get to prevent someone else from feeling as crappy as I did!
Additional bonus points for the gender euphoria of being told I’m the stronger of the two of us and carrying the heavier things, which was neverrrr a thing for me before starting T 💪🏳️⚧️
1d ago
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Making the bed is so much easier when you have someone else (even virtually!) present. Basically body-doubling but less work.
also, being patient with yourself! much easier said than done I know but not beating myself up for my emotions and letting myself feel them without Shame has definitely helped me move through them more easily.
Mar 9, 2024
this might be weird, because it seems everyone on this app is incredibly well adjusted, if not just a little odd. i am coming off (i hope) of an almost three week depressive episode, during which i have not run (longest period in two years), watched excessive amounts of (shitty) netflix, and eaten so poorly that i no longer crave vegetables or fruits (this is the most disappointing and surprising). every single thought that i’ve had during this time has been about how it is entirely impossible for me to get out of bed, and that i will never be myself again. i’ve gained an impressive amount of weight, so much so that i hope to god i’m just being overly critical of myself. my skin has dried out, my floors are dusty, and i have more laundry to do than i feel is humanly possible. these past few weeks, my brain has been a miserable place to be.
but today, i got up. i went to learn how to make couscous at a friend’s house, watched as she manned the burners with cartoonish dexterity. hot water rippled into pots, spices flashed in the air, fresh vegetables perfumed the kitchen. we cooked, ate, and hung out with her family until i had to go home and clean for a friend coming in from out of town. it was lovely and cloudy on the walk home. i always miss the sky when i bedrot, and try to at least make it to my roof for sunset and stick my head out the window for sunrise. when i got home, i sat for a little while holding my cat before working. does anyone else do this to try and regulate their mood? i then washed dishes, fixed my broken washing machine, and scrubbed floors until the friend arrived. it’s nice to have a clean house. everyone knows it, so how is it so bloody hard to keep up?
tonight, i went for a walk. i wanted to run, but didn’t intend or expect to get far. i put on a quick one before the eternal worm devours connecticut on repeat. starting slow, feeling the cold. frosty air fogged my glasses. after half a mile, endorphines began to flood my mind. things seemed possible. i could keep running, and, by extension, i could get myself out of this bedrotting cycle. i just kept running, slowly. a mile. keep going. slowly. i usually turn around at 1.5 to make a rough 5k, but i hit 1.75 and wanted to keep on. it was 2 before i decided to turn around. don’t stop. keep going. feel the cold. feel the sweat in your hands, think about the fog that has settled over the town and it’s ugly white lights. i just kept going, trying to push myself to each next landmark. i ended up doing four miles without stopping, something not unheard of, but certainly an achievement for me.
i understand that this might seem stupid and indulgent. but i just want it to be here. i need to mark it down, write it out, prove that i can get better. i can pull myself out of these doldrums. and anyone can. it’s trite and its true. dishes, laundry, and taxes never end, but we do them because we have to. because it’s pleasant to have clean hair and sunlight on your skin. brushed teeth and charged batteries. these responsibilities also help make us feel good. i know this period of inactivity and neglect is not going to be easy to move past, but i will. because i want to feel good. so, even though it seems stupid sometimes, i am going to go on a run tomorrow. i will wash my face and eat some protein. one day at a time, i will get better. my dms are open for anyone struggling or anyone who just wants to talk ❤️🔥
Oct 25, 2024
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recommendation mostly for myself for later. I was stressed about work and I thought maybe I should cancel my rock climbing class and just get more done.
But I went! and now I’m in such a great mood and I see that my work problems aren’t such a huge deal after all!
Feb 7, 2024
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The app isn’t letting me add a photo, but I just inhaled these—this recipe was the best thing I’ve made in a long time and it makes me feel better about having to cut back a little on meat/dairy/eggs for health reasons.
RECIPE:
1 can seasoned black beans, mashed, with a little added cayenne pepper to taste
1 whole sweet potato, cooked in the microwave and blended with the skin on and seasoned with nutritional yeast, garlic, onion, salt, pepper, msg, and other seasonings to taste
1 block of extra firm tofu, pressed and crumbled and cooked in a pan with minimal oil, then seasoned with 1 whole pack of taco seasoning
violife Mexican-style vegan shredded cheese
Melt the cheese on the tortilla in the microwave, then spread the black bean paste, then the sweet potatoes, then the tofu. Then put it back in the pan to get the tortilla a bit crispier.
I sliced it in 4 with a pizza cutter, then served it with Herdez mild guacamole salsa
Change it up for your own tastes, but I’m so excited to make some more from the rest of the fillings that I saved in the fridge
4d ago
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I don’t want to let machines think for me at all, but especially with how many LLMs are so consistently wrong about what they say and give such bad output! Why are people putting their faith in something that says 2+2 is 5 and will fight you when you try to tell it it’s wrong?
May 2, 2025
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TLDR: Get out of your apartment, get a cheap drink *if you want*, and meet people in your community through a structured activity!!! A perfect recipe for getting out of your comfort zone while not being too overwhelmed about it!
*Disclaimer: If you’re sober but still enjoy the vibe and are comfortable being around booze, I swear to you I would never notice if you had a NA bev or never drank anything and I don’t think anyone else would either, nor would they care if they did catch on*
But I‘ve been doing bar trivia for almost 2 years now and it’s SO much fun, especially when you have a good host and you’re in a group that cares enough to try but not enough to get too hung up on getting things wrong. We mostly yap between questions/rounds and the hosts have always loved us. We‘ve moved around because places have closed and/or our schedules changed and we needed a different night of the week. But going to different places with different vibes has helped with my social anxiety SO much like I’m much more confident with interacting with different types of people now and much less worried that they’re not going to like me. Sometimes other trivia teams haven’t liked us but we’ve learned to be like “so what?” and just keep vibing bc we’re not hurting anyone. And when we get questions that feel tailor-made for us, like when it has to do with our homestates or hometowns (we’re all transplants) or with our special interests, we get a high we can ride the rest of the week.
And KARAOKE is the BEST! You get to do whatever song you want, and it is more fun to do one that gets the crowd going, but also if I wanna do a country song I’m nostalgic for but no one else knows, screw y’all I’m gonna enjoy my 3 minutes and give you a show. Also, there’s some regulars but also always some wildcards which keeps it interesting, like last week a huge NJ dude who may have been a mobster and who put his name down as Bonesaw, pulled me up to two-step with him to an old country song. Where else are you gonna get that sort of experience?
5d ago