you can show someone love without knowing their name yet! say hello n commit to practicing seeing n loving the people around you— compliment the choices you can see they’ve made, or sum u notice in their becoming: their glasses, the way they keep their shoulders relaxed, the generosity of their laugh! this goes extra for Black people, homeless people, n other people the state trains us to invisibilize n see as zeroes. very quickly will strangers become community once you learn and call them by their names :)
May 6, 2025
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people are so beautiful and they deserve to know!
Jan 25, 2024
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TLDR: there are friends everywhere for those with eyes to see
I think one consequence of urbanism is a sense of alienation or otherness from one’s neighbors, and especially from strangers. the average person you pass on the street is assumed to have little in common with you with which to establish a mutual connection. maybe this is a consequence of me living in the south, but i’ve been finding that most people are happy to start a light conversation in public.
ive been making a practice of being in public spaces with a posture of openness to interaction. no earbuds in, making light convo with people like service workers that goes beyond the transaction, striking up convos with people who are sharing a space i’m in, etc. most recently I stopped on a park bench at a skatepark during a bike ride and struck up a convo with a skater who beefed a trick and was describing in great detail how it happened and his history with skating. shout out cole I hope your collar bone isn’t broken.
these aren’t the same as a deep, intentional community that one has with close friends/peers (that comes from seeking out, plugging in, and showing up consistently), but seeing everyone around you as a possibility for human connection until proven otherwise makes one feel less lonely. there’s an intentionality in having a posture of openness to connection that can become a self fulfilling prophecy. it’s easy nowadays to feel like we live in social archipelagos, with our own clusters of friends and loved ones with little connecting each group to each other and little connection to others everywhere around us. but your average person is just as interesting and worth getting to know as anyone else. be curious, be cordial, and start integrating casual momentary connections into your life to tide you over between the deeper relationships in your life you might not have access to all the time
May 4, 2025
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it’s nice to acknowledge and be acknowledged by folks in ur community
Oct 2, 2024
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warren at the block said i need to start journaling again so i will try here until i can get an actual journal
but i came in here to talk abt my motivation i think? or at least how i feel life has been asking of me a higher self lately, n so im trying to figure out how to build new patterns n disrupt ones that rly dont even feel like me anymore— they feel more like they’re part of my training? the autopilot used to be really helpful in psychically n emotionally dangerous environments but now it’s like holding me back i think? i’m trying to jump into cold water (metaphorically lmao) to reset my system but it’s also like… bro the change is in the minuscule n accumulating! u gotta do it right now for tomorrow! i need to get back to dreaming….
- 5/5/25; 19:33 CDT
in the goo :p
May 6, 2025
there are snatches of a redeeming darkness to be found in this life. the other weekend, i was floating in a pool while being filmed (an experience that definitely advanced the trans agenda, that’s another story) and for a moment i found something that felt how i feel when im looking at the moon.
i still don’t know their name, so i‘m calling them space for now. think i used to call them god mostly? but they find me in voices and smiles n the way purple light reflects off the skin of my loved ones. all this plus Blackness makes me think of space as a home— Space is the Place type beat! need to rewatch that movie… but anyways i’m sitting on the couch with Black people and there is future to be found in all shades <3
May 5, 2025
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hey gang might throw fragments of my psyche here sometimes! occasionally may leave shards of my body behind as well
May 5, 2025