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FACING YOUR FEAR OF REJECTION

I have a heavy dose of social anxiety so I have quite a difficult time making friends. My brother is the complete opposite of me, so he encourages me to reach out to people all the time. I usually never do it but I’ve been so fed up with feeling unsatisfied and lonely. So I messaged a few people I went to college with yesterday and they all want to hang out!! I was so scared of getting rejected. But even if they were to reject me, I think having this skill is something I’ll be grateful for in the long run. Even if it feels really scary now.

@valoorie

Apr 21, 2025

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It's not as bad or as scary as you're thinking, and putting it off is only hurting you

I deal with a sort of lack of emotional object permanence. If my friends haven't shown or said they like me recently, I easily convince myself they never did. And if it's been a while since I've done something scary, I worry I don't have it in me to do so, even forgetting that I ever did. And I forget how well things typically go, especially after something bad has happened. It's hard not to feel like since my anxiety was right about this big thing going really badly, then it's going to be right about everything. But it's not!! It rarely is!! And if it is, I can deal with that!! Life moves on! It's never that bad!

@random-online-nerd

May 31, 2025

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ANTI-REC: SOCIAL ANXIETY

why is talking to people who i want to be friends with so stressful?? i saw this guy today who volunteers at the radio station i volunteer at, and who i’ve seen play with his band a few shows, and is friends with my friends, but has no idea who i am. i stood off to the side for ten minutes trying to work up the courage to say hello, sweating, getting a stomach ache, itchy, blushing. in the end i just left without saying anything. why is it so hard!

@paperpendragon

Apr 11, 2025

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i do not trust women who are not at least a little angry

Rage is such an inherently feminine trait and living with the subtle jabs and taunts at your mere existence should be enough of a reason to feel that anger. A woman who isn't angry is either submissive of her mistreatment or apathetic, both of which are not qualities I would want in friendships. So this is a rule I abide by. I may not necessarily only befriend people who explicitly call themselves feminists but i trust angry women more. A girl who cannot stand up for herself wouldn't do a great job at defending her friends, I believe.

@beadaboobie

Mar 24, 2025

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phone was at 10% so to save battery, i sat alone with my thoughts and started tearing up in the train

Teared up thinking about how once you reach a certain age, people don't ask you about your parents anymore, and you are just expected to exist without getting to ask your mother for advice. Or there is a time in the future, my dad would not travel 2 hours to pick me up from my internship just because I caught a cold and my head ached. That I would have to live on in a world without either of them. Or that I would forget the sound of their voice and never get the warmest hug when my life is falling apart. There is a reason my screen time has never been lower than 7 hrs, and I like it that way.

@beadaboobie

May 6, 2025

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spilled someone's drink and proceeded to lick it off the table as an apology

i was drunk obv

@beadaboobie

May 15, 2025