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this might be pessimistic, but i think i’ve finally learned this lesson…
if you can recognize icky behavior in other people and leave at that first sign, you will have significantly more stable, meaningful relationships of any kind.
do not rationalize their poor behavior and give them the benefit of the doubt. move on.
i wish i started doing this sooner.
if you can recognize icky behavior in other people and leave at that first sign, you will have significantly more stable, meaningful relationships of any kind.
do not rationalize their poor behavior and give them the benefit of the doubt. move on.
i wish i started doing this sooner.
Apr 21, 2025
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🔋Save your energy, don‘t focus too much on their intentions, actions speak louder than words.
So let them be, never change because you got treated badly, stay nice, treat people good, smile without expecting it in return. some people are just ugly on the inside and you should accept that and move on.
Redefine your boundaries, because not everyone deserves your time.
A lot of people are still projecting their insecurities and have a hard time to just be direct and honest about what they want and need.
I wasted a lot of time and energy trying to save many “friendships” because i appreciated the person but it was not worth, so i will let them be, but that doesn’t mean i will be available once they come back, quite the opposite.
Out of sight out of mind.
If they don’t know your worth, block them, ignore their text, archive the conversation, delete the number.
You know why ? Because one day you will meet people who will show you that whatever you were doing to maintain your previous relationships with people was never too much ! Was never clingy !
Be safe ! Love yourself first and focus on your own growth ! Forget those who did you wrong !
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👩I wasted two years waiting for someone to change because he kept telling me he would, despite not showing that through his actions. if someone wants to change their negative behaviors because they don't want to hurt you anymore, they will- and you'll be able to see that growth in the way they treat you. and if they're not putting in any effort, they aren't the one for you.
May 24, 2025
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😵What you allow in your life (ie poor behavior, bigotry, inconsideration, etc.),
you‘re subconsciously saying this behavior is ok. I know, I know. ”But what does it say about me if I am not accepting of others?”
In the grand scheme, you’re saying “I’m ok with people treating those I care about like shit.“
This is a hard one to learn. I try to give everyone the benefit of the doubt. Sometimes, that same benefit of the doubt is enabling flat out shitty people to keep being shitty people.
So what do you do? You want to make sure everyone feels cared for? Start with yourself. The next time that one friend who says everything that’s on their mind hurts your feelings, tell them. watch How they react. Watch if they do it again. And decide from there. Because at the end of the day, you aren‘t obligated to keep people in your life, whatever the reason.
you‘re subconsciously saying this behavior is ok. I know, I know. ”But what does it say about me if I am not accepting of others?”
In the grand scheme, you’re saying “I’m ok with people treating those I care about like shit.“
This is a hard one to learn. I try to give everyone the benefit of the doubt. Sometimes, that same benefit of the doubt is enabling flat out shitty people to keep being shitty people.
So what do you do? You want to make sure everyone feels cared for? Start with yourself. The next time that one friend who says everything that’s on their mind hurts your feelings, tell them. watch How they react. Watch if they do it again. And decide from there. Because at the end of the day, you aren‘t obligated to keep people in your life, whatever the reason.
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🌾everytime i log on and see my web user homies posting, i be like 👋🏼👋🏼👋🏼 bonjour! or whatever the frig belle sings at the beginning of beauty and the beast 🥲 like i saw @MARXINISTA mornin post and i was like GM 😇✍🏼👋🏼 <3
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please let us be free from the commodification of the data generated from our social, whimsical, and sincere, free expression
the sincerity of this app is because it’s different from those other apps :/ why do we need metrics on how we socialize? 😮💨😮💨
i’m curious as much as i am sad about the decision to make the star count visible. is that what its proper name is? or are we calling it likes? 👀
please let us be free from the commodification of the data generated from our social, whimsical, and sincere, free expression
the sincerity of this app is because it’s different from those other apps :/ why do we need metrics on how we socialize? 😮💨😮💨
i’m curious as much as i am sad about the decision to make the star count visible. is that what its proper name is? or are we calling it likes? 👀
Apr 23, 2025