go “ugh i’m confused” and relax about trying to get out of it so fast. just be it, let it force you to listen more, be more observant, see yourself as the liquidy ever-shifting thing you actually are! try to be honest
@ADDYCYL i think everyone is in the same boat with you including me! haha i feel like the thing that really made it click for me is: you‘re gonna do things at your own pace and feel your feelings no matter what. no reason to make it harder by hitting your head against a wall yknow?
@COOLSHIELDBUBBLE “you’re gonna do things at your own pace & feel your feelings no matter what” is so powerful because it’s the complete opposite of trying to intellectualise your feelings away! It makes me think of what virginia woolf said in a room of one’s own — to not frantically search for validation but be still and know you will eventually have the tools to move forward, and from there a beautiful assurance emerges :,)))
go through phases change your mind contradict yourself etc. consistent is not something you need to be at this point in your life. allow change and growth and for people to misunderstand you as you do so.