This is one that I am still relearning everyday. It's always been rather dificult for me to ask for what I want, or even need. Not sure when or why this pattern started but it became glaringly obvious to me as I matured that the strongest tool I have in my arsenal is self advocacy. I realized that if you aren't willing to speak up for yourself and fight for yourself then that makes it all the more difficult for others to help you because NO ONE KNOWS WHAT YOU WANT UNLESS YOU TELL THEM FIRST. Slowly shedding the fear around being heard and seen has drastically changed my life for the better. My biggest resolution this year was to stop being so scared of everything and that incudes asking for what I want or even what I know I deserve. It's definitely a journey, and something that I need to work on/relearn everyday but everyday is getting easier and better.
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Asking for what you want
Mar 4, 2024
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Trying to do this more in 2025. But actually listening to if i want to or can physically do what is being asked of me. it’s really hard i won’t lie, especially if you’ve not been allowed to put your needs first but im standing on me this year so going to keep at it.
Mar 5, 2025
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Sometimes all you have to do is ask.
Sep 18, 2024
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the month of march has been very intentionally slow for me. with recovering from surgery as well as preparing for spring i kinda just wanted to pause the outer world and take a moment to calm my inner world. these albums have been the breath of fresh air i needed recently.
Kelela - In The Blue Light
such a wonderful artistic expression and journey. kelela is one of my all time favorite artists and knowing i was in the crowd for the live recording makes it all the more special (you can hear me go wooo at 3:30 of cherry coffee,, insane to me) a mix of covers and reworks of her own material, this record showcases the pure artistry and originality that made me fall in love with her from my first listen. play this as you take a shower and get ready for the day. through the beautiful twists and turns you will find yourself in a peaceful bliss.
Skúli Sverrisson - The Box Tree
this is an album i discovered through an interview from marg.mp3 on instagram (love her for her contribution towards a social push of removing the algorithm from your music discovery) this instrumental album blends into itself seamlessly. its the kind of record you can put on when going for a walk and then suddenly you realize you have listened to the album ten times over getting lost in the evolving and incredibly gentle melodies. i actually played this when i had a migraine, a time when i want to shut my eyes and plug my ears, and it genuinely helped calm my nervous system.
Mar 28, 2025
Rian Phin - Amazing fashion video essays, my favorite place to go for fashion week recaps, as well as more intricate videos on designers, houses, and personal style in general. Rian does an amazing job of not just telling you the information but also WHY you need to be learning these things. This is the channel that first got me interested in fashion from an anthropological POV. Helping me understand why certain choices might be made when styling. An amazing refuge in the age of anti-intellectualism.
Fashion Neurosis - One of a kind interview based videos, special not just for their format of therapist and patient, but also because of the heavy hitting big names that are featured in this weekly series. Haider Ackermann, Rick Owens, JW Anderson, Kate Moss and theee Honey Dijon just to name a few. This is an amazing channel giving insight to some of the biggest names and brains in fashion and style, and in such a fresh and enjoyable way.
Rotational - A worldwide archive of music. This is the place to find the deepest of deep cuts. All tracks posted are usually ripped from vinyl or tape. I love going through this channel to find amazing records that most people probably haven't heard before to use when mixing and DJ'ing. From Middle Eastern disco/techno to South American sleaze/funk this is a wonderful place to remove the algorithm from your music discovery process and find something new.
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My designated sad playlist. It’s not that I’m always sad so I always need to listen, its just that sometimes I am in need of a gentle moment in a crazy world and this playlist allows me to slow down, sit still for a moment, and feel my emotions. Definitely a playlist to just be shuffled and explored but if you do nothing else, make sure you listen to the first track “close2u” it’s a Rihanna edit that stops me in my tracks every time I hear it.
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