Rec | DIRECT COMMUNICATION

Rec

🏹

I was spiralling bad bc of assumptions I made. Instead of withering away in my misery, I asker the other person whether their thoughts aligned with what my brain had cleverly predicted. My brain had assumed wrong and caused a great deal of unnecessary distress. Let this be a lesson to us all (mostly future me): just because my brain thinks it, does not mean it's true

@jahnneke

Mar 27, 2025

see likes

Comments (2)

Make an account to reply.

@dani_z_baybee

To calm my anxiety about situations I mostly made up in my head, I like to remind myself: “If it’s not actually happening, then it’s not real”. Ex) If Jessica didn’t tell me that I’m a dumb b that she hates, then I’m not a dumb b and she doesn’t hate me

Mar 27, 2025

@jahnneke

@DANI_Z_BAYBEE ah I fear that does not work for because of ~experiences~. For me it's all about grounding and focusing on things I know are certain (which I need some communicating for sometimes).

Mar 28, 2025

Related Recs

Rec

🚫

anti-rec / pet peeve — Mind reading

It really cheeses me off when people think they know what others are thinking or what makes them tick or what their motivations are for something.
Recently heard someone say, "Oh the whole reason 'Brad' did good at [this thing] is because he got social validation from his success."
And I said, "Oh really, did Brad tell you that?"
And of course the answer was no, Brad never said that. It was just a great big assumption about Brad's motives—and a negative assumption at that.
You contain multitudes. I contain multitudes. We contain multitudes.
We are right now the living, breathing, growing sum of a trillion different factors. It is far more interesting and fulfilling to be curious and ask and be surprised than to project our narrow, limited assumptions on others.
(apparently this is a bit of a theme for me today since I already posted about it in another form)
And if you find yourself mind reading and assuming and putting others in a box, then you know what, no worries! Me too sometimes. But let's not stay there.

@mattshawsome

Oct 19, 2024

Rec

❓

Questioning

Everyone I’ve met who thinks they know what’s going ends up wrong or suffering. Accepting that you don’t know what’s going on can be very helpful and freeing.

@cooper

STAFF

Dec 13, 2022

Rec

📺

ANTI REC: BEING PERCEIVED INCORRECTLY

today someone told me something about myself and they were just so completely off base that i started questioning my tone and facial expressions bc that was in no way the vibe i was going for
a related anti rec: people who meet you once and assume that they know everything about you (which they obviously don’t)

@danielalala

May 10, 2025

Top Recs from @jahnneke

Rec

🧗

ORGANISING GIRLS' TRIPS IN MALE DOMINATED FIELDS

As y'all might know, I'm a climber. Which is fun, cute, sexy and I recommend everyone to become one. Only downside is that it's def a male dominated sport. There's plenty of girls who climb, but a large majority (in our gym) is male. Meaning that the likelihood of going on an outdoor climbing trip without men.. is small. Unless, of course, you organise a girls-only climbing trip. I would highly recommend doing so. Men r great but it's also nice to only be surrounded by girls who know what's it like to climb when you have a menstrual cycle and don't have a natural knack for dynamic power. Made me feel supported, seen and connected.

@jahnneke

May 6, 2025

Rec

🌳

Touching grass

had a little lay down on this tree trunk and felt 65% better afterwards.

@jahnneke

Oct 13, 2024

Rec

👔

WORK FIT

Felt like doing a lil extra before going into work this week. (Yes my job let's me crop my uniform)

@jahnneke

Jul 11, 2025