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Asking for help
for some reason I have gone most of my life acting like I’m the only person on earth who’s not allowed to ask for help… and also feeling evil whenever I ask someone to do/not do something…. and lately I’m realizing that actually it’s okay if I ask. Most people are cool and will say “yes no problem”
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@erikrikrika
Mar 24, 2025
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@carolinebreeden
dude, i’m the same way. i love when people need me to help out with something, though. make it make sense!!! asking for help is definitely something i’m having to work on this year. it’s literally no big deal; idk why we worry about it like we do
Mar 25, 2025
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@crumbmode
i, too, hate to ask...but love to be asked. gotta remember that i guess. 👍
Mar 25, 2025
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@celine
most people love to give help; it's a bid for connection, a chance to feel needed. and we all yearn to feel needed
Mar 24, 2025

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