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Making a dress

It’s so fun! Even if you decide you will never wear it outside the house! it’s amazing to have made something. I finished a dress today. It was great. I’m afraid to wear it outside the house because while I love the aesthetic on me and I know that it’s totally my decision what I wear and all that, I can’t help but think about how suspicious I would find any men who try to talk to me while wearing that. I love dressing in the fun pink and girly kind of dresses I was afraid to wear as a kid because I didn’t want to be seen as “too feminine.” thats why I love that bows are a trend right now. But now I’m supposed to be an adult and be responsible about the brand of femininity I emulate. And also even taking that out of the equation, if there’s anything I can do to avoid unwanted and creepy attention, I’ll do it. But all that could just be me trying to come up with a more “legit” reason i don't want to wear this outside than “it looks too unconventional”

@mary-13.0.17.17

Mar 20, 2025

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Dressing like a cartoon character on acid

(long winded yap sesh incoming apologies) i spent waaaay too long a time being spooked by the mere thought of being perceived, and so i tried to blend into whatever group i was meant to believe i should fit into. i honestly think my fashion sense now is a combination of, like, quasi-exposure therapy, bc when you're walking around like a birthday clown u kinda just have to get used to people looking at u, and all that built up frustration with trying to fit in finally being let out, aka me finally just wearing what makes me happy and i think it's easy to tell bc most of my influences are the things that make me the most happy. obviously there's the color palettes that give very cartoon character, but also i love color coordination and matching sets that also feels in that same vein, also very kitschy also i wear my real life fashion influences on my sleeve. missy elliott and andre 3000 have always meant a lot to me, but also janelle monae, raja, tierra whack, rihanna, zendaya, grace jones, cl (all of 2ne1 tbh), lady gaga, shea couleé, gwendoline christie, beyoncé, jonte' moaning, etc. and etc. even in my most lowkey outfits, the influences still kinda peek through but i'm also very influenced by my queerness, and queer culture in general. i think one of the hardest things about having to "fit it" was that i always felt like i had to embody a very cis/heteronormative of what femininity is, and that's just not me (maybe i'm just talking out of my ass, but i feel like there's sort of an understanding that there are differences between queer femininity and cisheteronormative femininity. like if i dress feminine the way that i want to dress feminine, it's not the kind that like a straight guy would want/expect from me). i think it's also just a universal experience that, when u grow up queer, anything that feels like it could accidentally "out" u feels scary, and honestly it feels like i wanna make up for all that time being scared. like, be the person younger me needed back then, y'know? the parts of my life that have made me feel the most me are the queerest; drag, theatre, ballroom culture, dance in general, and that feels more true to who i am so yeah, idk it's not really like trends for me it's just what makes me happy. tee el dee dubz big princess dress at the grocery store energy

@el_ugh

May 6, 2024

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my vintage shopping experience in Palm Springs

i have lost 20 lbs since last year and as an avid thrift and vintage shopper, it felt lightly easier to go shopping for older clothes being a US size 12 again. on my vacation in palm springs, i went to many places. the individual stores, the vintage market, etc, and it was still quite hard to find what i wanted. specifically i was on the search for a 60s mod dress. i couldn’t find that exactly. every mod dress i found either didn’t fit or something very wrong was happening with the seams. i had a light breakdown, as i felt like even with what progress i made, it was not enough. i felt a bit like i wasn’t worthy of these outfits. and even though i know people my size existed then, i was feeling discouraged. but one experience made me more hopeful for myself. i walked into iconic atomic (may be in the uptown part of downtown) and at first i was looking at outfits in the first room. the owner then guided me to the back where they organized sizes with busts 40+ inches (all the way up to 50 inches). she told me her and the store owner who herself was plus sized believed in inclusive sizing for their merchandise. i was gobsmacked at how much i saw there that could fit me and even bigger. I ended up getting a 60s/70s long pink dress with chiffon long sleeves and white flower details. i asked her to zip me up for the full effect. she noticed me grinning from ear to ear. i do wish other vintage stores and shop owners think about expanding their merch more for the girlies like me and bigger. but it’s experiences like that, that make me hopeful for myself journey with my body, and with the search of things i love.

@chiawase_

Mar 4, 2025

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buying myself flowers

i cried all night, i deserve this today

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my boy Danmuji turns 5 today

he doesn’t even know how special this day is 😂🎉

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the whole “dogs are better than cats” and vice versa debate is getting old

because to me if you can’t find room for both, then i just think you hate animals and that’s kinda a red flag

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