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Dressing for fun

Putting on clothes is one of the few built- in ways to have fun and be creative in your life without going out of your way to pick up a hobby or pursue a creative passion or career. It’s how you start your day, every day. So take advantage of it! So much of life is about practicality, because the implications of risk-taking have real impacts on your life – makes sense. Exploring and taking “risks” with your style is a fairly low-stakes way to break from that a bit and let loose.¹ Now, I’m not saying you should go from full norm-core to runway fashion. But for god’s sake, it wouldn’t kill you to try on a couple statement pieces and see what magic may happen! Picking from a stable of staples is boring, like eating the same meal every day. Sure, that meal might be comfortable and filling, but is it FULfilling? So many people make up rules for themselves (“this color isn't good on me”) and they end up arbitrarily limiting themselves.² If you like the color, it can look good on you! Now if you wanna dabble, try getting a themed party going. It’s easier to take the plunge when everyone else is doing it, and it’s almost impossible not to have fun dressing up in something novel. Try thrifting with a friend that is either already more exploratory than you or open to changing things up. It’s fun as hell to try stuff on, even if you don’t buy anything! Also, hot tip for the people who wear “men’s” clothes… the women’s section is way better!³ So much more variety in style, shape, fabric, etc. I was going to write more but I’m sick as a dog right now. In conclusion, have fun ♥️ P.S. This is in no way a personal dig at anyone who has a Superman closet. Just trying to encourage those who might wanna take a bolder step! ——— ¹The degree of this is certainly dependent on who you are, where you are – what pressures you’re facing. ²These types of rules may be culturally-imposed and personally internalized, so no shame there. ³This may be more restrictive for bigger bois, which points to an issue in women’s wear: they don’t make nearly as much variety in larger sizes, which is bullshit 🫤

@solomonki

May 5, 2024

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Lolita fashion

as i explore femininity a little more (from an aesthetic aspect), i decided it was time for me, to live my childhood dream, and dabble into lolita fashion. and as i manifested this for myself, i saw someone dressed in lolita twice last year, and before that i never did. seeing those women cross my path made me really realize its time to try. there’s a gathering happening next month and i am preparing my fit. but there have been some downsides to this venture: 🍓 some brands are still not really size inclusive, so finding a dress that fits has been a bit difficult 🍓 even when reselling, some dresses are like $200+! 🍓 there are “rules” to dressing like this and i don’t want to look ”ita” but it’s worth the journey. i feel like we all have to do something a few times to get it right

@chiawase_

Mar 21, 2025

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Dressing like a cartoon character on acid

(long winded yap sesh incoming apologies) i spent waaaay too long a time being spooked by the mere thought of being perceived, and so i tried to blend into whatever group i was meant to believe i should fit into. i honestly think my fashion sense now is a combination of, like, quasi-exposure therapy, bc when you're walking around like a birthday clown u kinda just have to get used to people looking at u, and all that built up frustration with trying to fit in finally being let out, aka me finally just wearing what makes me happy and i think it's easy to tell bc most of my influences are the things that make me the most happy. obviously there's the color palettes that give very cartoon character, but also i love color coordination and matching sets that also feels in that same vein, also very kitschy also i wear my real life fashion influences on my sleeve. missy elliott and andre 3000 have always meant a lot to me, but also janelle monae, raja, tierra whack, rihanna, zendaya, grace jones, cl (all of 2ne1 tbh), lady gaga, shea couleé, gwendoline christie, beyoncé, jonte' moaning, etc. and etc. even in my most lowkey outfits, the influences still kinda peek through but i'm also very influenced by my queerness, and queer culture in general. i think one of the hardest things about having to "fit it" was that i always felt like i had to embody a very cis/heteronormative of what femininity is, and that's just not me (maybe i'm just talking out of my ass, but i feel like there's sort of an understanding that there are differences between queer femininity and cisheteronormative femininity. like if i dress feminine the way that i want to dress feminine, it's not the kind that like a straight guy would want/expect from me). i think it's also just a universal experience that, when u grow up queer, anything that feels like it could accidentally "out" u feels scary, and honestly it feels like i wanna make up for all that time being scared. like, be the person younger me needed back then, y'know? the parts of my life that have made me feel the most me are the queerest; drag, theatre, ballroom culture, dance in general, and that feels more true to who i am so yeah, idk it's not really like trends for me it's just what makes me happy. tee el dee dubz big princess dress at the grocery store energy

@el_ugh

May 6, 2024

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getting fired from a doggy daycare

my boss didn’t give a reason but it might be because I saw him hit a dog so then I told the dog’s owner. I hope that’s why because then i can feel like a good person and not like I was just really bad at my job. But I suppose i was better than he was regardless since I never hit any dogs.

@mary-13.0.17.17

Mar 19, 2025

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I went to a gun range for the first time yesterday

I’ve been meaning to for a while and now that there’s a gun nut who is obsessed with me (long story) I figured it was time. I went with my dad and it was a lot of fun and I just think it would be so coquette to have a gun in a holster that I wear attached to my leg under a pink poofy dress. I want the holster to have a pink bow on it and be sparkly.

@mary-13.0.17.17

Mar 19, 2025

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Snitch on your boss

Just do it. You may get fired. But at least you did the right thing. (I am now realizing this seems contradictory to my last post but snitching and blabbing are two totally different vibes in this case)

@mary-13.0.17.17

Mar 23, 2025