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idk if this is unpopular or not but
i think we need to more genuinely care about people. so much of how we interact with or rather criticise people nowadays is excused by simple ācaringā about someone meanwhile itās the rudest comment ever. if you really cared about someone in a genuine kind sort of way you wouldnāt say something to insult someone. basically what iām referring to is the commenters on instagram reels or tiktok on random peoples posts doing like completely unrelated stuff then theyāll just out of nowhere say something like āthis isnāt healthyā or any comment related to their weight or how they look. and theyād excuse themselves in a way as if they were looking out for the person and warning them of health risks when theyāre really just being horrible and wanting an excuse that makes them seem nice and caring.
unprovoked unkind comments on someoneās looks or weight will never be ācaringā, you donāt know this person!!! i think to be caring you need to consider someoneās feelings and i donāt mean acknowledging that someone might get upset about a comment you make, but acknowledging and caring that what you say might upset them so not saying it
1. because itās unkind
2. unneeded
3. not considerate or empathetic.
Mar 4, 2025
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this!! compliments have become so backhanded, even in real life. iāve never been the type of person to be ājokinglyā mean to my friends which means i always hear about it when people take it too far and someone gets hurt. the world is a scary enough place as it is, why canāt we all just be nice to one another!!
Mar 4, 2025
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I donāt mean this in a letās enforce toxic positivity way. And maybe this sounds simple and obvious but Iāve learned from my own experience and observations that it can be off-putting to others to always be complaining, criticizing, or saying negative things! It can really bring the energy down whether itās in interactions with close friends, significant others, family, coworkers, dates, or strangers and it doesnāt make people feel good.
This isnāt to say that you should never have critical thoughts, engage in difficult conversations, or share your heavy emotions with people you trust. but I think this is something people can do without even realizing itās a pattern for them and it has an effect on your own psyche as well imoā¦ and it feels great to bring a little light into someoneās day š¦ļø
Apr 19, 2024
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The internet has truly ruined the relationship between hot people & non-hot people. You used to only get roasted by people who were high 8ās / solid 9ās / perfect 10ās. Now itās anyone with an internet connection thinking they can critique you + your takes. Itās concerning.
Like if I post a song and a 9.2 tells me that itās bad? Immediately I think āMan, maybe I should reconsider this entirely.ā But when a 4.5 gets a little burst of bravery and tells me that the song I posted was bad? Iām sort of embarrassed for them. And a little grossed out. Who let them be on the internet? Why did they think their profile pic was a good idea? Why does it feel like I need to take a long shower to wash off the effects of being in (internet) proximity to them? We have to restore the balance of only letting hotter people speak down to you.
Some suggestions:
1. Know your hot # and stay in your lane. Itās embarrassing if you try to comment or sass someone thats much more attractive than you :/
2. If you want to roast more people then maybe get hotter? Idk? Drink more water? Get those 10k steps in? Do that thing where you make your jawline more visible? Read a book? Meditate? Do some yoga? Put all the energy you have pent up for roasting and apply it to becoming more attractive.
3. If you arenāt hot enough to roast people and you donāt want to get hotter, then take yourself over to Facebook. That wasteland is a free-for-all and it seems like the hotness scale is nonexistent there anyways.
Hope this helps!
(Per usual, read this with a healthy slab of sarcasm & satire. And if you take this seriously and it offends you, go back to point #2. Youāre giving low 5ās energy.)
Sep 5, 2024
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why be negative when you can be positive. If you see someone do something dumb just ignore it (unless itās especially funny then you can share it with friends another time).
We only live once so best to focus on the positives. When youāre nice to others you feel much better yourself. And everyoneās constantly learning, making mistakes anyway so while other people may seem uninformed sometimes, you also will be at points and you wouldnāt want to be ridiculed for that.
As for others being negative, just nod along and ignore. Or try to change the topic.
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