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being compassionate makes EVERYONE happy

why be negative when you can be positive. If you see someone do something dumb just ignore it (unless it’s especially funny then you can share it with friends another time). We only live once so best to focus on the positives. When you’re nice to others you feel much better yourself. And everyone’s constantly learning, making mistakes anyway so while other people may seem uninformed sometimes, you also will be at points and you wouldn’t want to be ridiculed for that. As for others being negative, just nod along and ignore. Or try to change the topic.

@sniffle

Jan 28, 2025

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Keeping things to yourself

I often dress my daughter to mimic me, but on some days she requests it for herself (hats and loose jeans and layers and shirts with cars on them). Letting her figure out her personal style at 3 is exciting and adorable. At the park today, when she took off her jacket and hoodie, she was running around in a Cars t-shirt and the hat and a lady approached me and said “Wow he sure does have long hair for a boy!” to which I corrected her and explained that she’s in fact a girl, to which she said “Well why do you have her dressed like that then?” …sigh… Look, my wife and I aren’t the type to be offended by the accidental misgender, it happens with kids all the time. But what does bother me is that it’s clear she started the convo only to critique the clothing choices that my daughter, a literal 3 year old, made. It got me thinking like…how sad do you have to be to go out of your way to release the inner dialogue you have in your mind, knowing that you’re only doing it to start issues? Really would have taken no energy to not say anything at all! I politely dismissed myself from the convo and we moved on to the swings, but I do think everyone should consider just keeping quiet more often. There’s no need to say certain things. I wasn’t bothered by it, but I can imagine that someone else could have been and that would have been its own fun conflict to resolve. I guess the elementary school proverb still holds true today: If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all!

@marianoleonczik

Sep 9, 2024

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Keeping your friend group ‘high vibes only’

in other words, cut toxic people. if you’re not having lots of laughs with people you enjoy being around, you’re doing it wrong.

@busyrach

Jan 27, 2024

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Starting over

“Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage.” — Anaïs Nin This is uncharacteristically raw and personal, even for me, and pretty heavy! I know many of you have seen me posting through it and I feel safe to talk about it openly now that I’ve safely landed at the start of my new life. It’s honestly even a little bit embarrassing but I think it’s important to share. I’ve never publicly mentioned it on here, but I have a husband; as of Friday, we’d have been together for 11 years, and we’ve been married for 3 years as of 2/22. I realize now that I wanted to explore what I looked like outside of my relationship with him because I had lost that. This is why PI.FYI has been so meaningful to me as a space to express myself and connect with people—to rediscover my voice. I had been living a lie this entire time, to others but worst of all to myself. He’s been verbally and emotionally abusive, physically but without touching me, to the point that every day I spent with him I was in danger. I’ve been shrinking myself and walking on eggshells to avoid making him insecure and provoking his casual put-downs and fits of rage, while hanging on for dear life to the threads of good I could see. I’ve wanted so badly to leave, more than anything, but I felt like there was no way out and that this was just something I would need to endure indefinitely—but someone who is so very dear to me helped me see that I have wings to fly, not by acting as my savior but by reminding me of my own power. The emotional safety they built and the gentle care they showed me made me feel like I could open up to them. With their encouragement I was brave enough to tell the truth to my friends, my family, my boss, and they have received me with warm, loving and open arms and rallied to support and protect me. The financial and  logistical aspects were the most intimidating to me and it’s going to be tough for a while but I’m going to be better than okay! Now I’m opening up to you. This isn’t the only abuse I’ve suffered in my life, and my old therapist told me she believed it was my mission to share my strength and light with others to inspire them and show them that change is possible. I hope that by sharing this, I can reach even just one person who is going through something similar and show that they are not alone, and they are not weak. People with certain backgrounds may be more vulnerable to abuse, but it can happen to anyone. It thrives in darkness, shame, and isolation—and breaking that silence is the first step toward freedom. Leaving is the scariest thing I have ever done but I have so many angels around me, and I am endlessly grateful. Thank you for being here with me 💌

@taterhole

Mar 16, 2025

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Never changing

My dad teases me about how when I was a little kid, my favorite thing to do when I was on the landline phone with somebody—be it a relative or one of my best friends—was to breathlessly describe the things that were in my bedroom so that they could have a mental picture of everything I loved and chose to surround myself with, and where I sat at that moment in time. Perfectly Imperfect reminds me of that so thanks for always listening and for sharing with me too 💌

@taterhole

Feb 23, 2025

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Finally Quitting the job that you hate

Schedule sent my resignation email for the morning, effective immediately ✅💅

@taterhole

Feb 27, 2025

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