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refrain from constantly bringing negativity into interactions
I don’t mean this in a let’s enforce toxic positivity way. And maybe this sounds simple and obvious but I’ve learned from my own experience and observations that it can be off-putting to others to always be complaining, criticizing, or saying negative things! It can really bring the energy down whether it’s in interactions with close friends, significant others, family, coworkers, dates, or strangers and it doesn’t make people feel good.
This isn’t to say that you should never have critical thoughts, engage in difficult conversations, or share your heavy emotions with people you trust. but I think this is something people can do without even realizing it’s a pattern for them and it has an effect on your own psyche as well imo
 and it feels great to bring a little light into someone’s day đŸŒŠïž
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@taterhole
Apr 19, 2024
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@loopsie
i'm so glad you said this!! to add to it, hopefully in the same vein i found relating to people on something we mutually dislike has been increasingly unappealing to me, doesn't feel as healthy it's an easy conversation but there is only so much to say about that and it's not of actual substance. same with self deprecating jokes. (they do hit sometimes) but you're not gonna lose the funny if you start liking yourself and nitpicking the good stuff in all circumstances feel the hardship and share it too when needed but know that you're gonna be taken care of one way or another:))
Apr 20, 2024
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@taterhole
lu2 yes!!!!!!! Completely agree it’s a shallow way to build connections. And especially agree on self-deprecating jokes I think I’m going to make another rec about this bc I have a lot to say đŸ€”
Apr 20, 2024
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being compassionate makes EVERYONE happy
why be negative when you can be positive. If you see someone do something dumb just ignore it (unless it’s especially funny then you can share it with friends another time).
We only live once so best to focus on the positives. When you’re nice to others you feel much better yourself. And everyone’s constantly learning, making mistakes anyway so while other people may seem uninformed sometimes, you also will be at points and you wouldn’t want to be ridiculed for that.
As for others being negative, just nod along and ignore. Or try to change the topic.
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Keeping things to yourself
I often dress my daughter to mimic me, but on some days she requests it for herself (hats and loose jeans and layers and shirts with cars on them). Letting her figure out her personal style at 3 is exciting and adorable. At the park today, when she took off her jacket and hoodie, she was running around in a Cars t-shirt and the hat and a lady approached me and said “Wow he sure does have long hair for a boy!” to which I corrected her and explained that she’s in fact a girl, to which she said “Well why do you have her dressed like that then?” 
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 Look, my wife and I aren’t the type to be offended by the accidental misgender, it happens with kids all the time. But what does bother me is that it’s clear she started the convo only to critique the clothing choices that my daughter, a literal 3 year old, made. It got me thinking like
how sad do you have to be to go out of your way to release the inner dialogue you have in your mind, knowing that you’re only doing it to start issues? Really would have taken no energy to not say anything at all! I politely dismissed myself from the convo and we moved on to the swings, but I do think everyone should consider just keeping quiet more often. There’s no need to say certain things. I wasn’t bothered by it, but I can imagine that someone else could have been and that would have been its own fun conflict to resolve. I guess the elementary school proverb still holds true today: If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all!
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