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i adore when my friends give me actual specific things they want for their birthday, the holidays, special occasion, whatever. no more of this "you don't have to get me a gift!" bullshit when i ask what you want for your birthday. we both know i'm getting you something regardless so just tell me what you actually want. i hate getting people gifts when i'm unsure if they'll like it.
i try to keep track of the things people love and say they want throughout the year so i have ideas. a couple of my friends and i even have a shared album where we put screenshots of the things we really want throughout the year so we have a plethora of ideas.
Mar 4, 2025
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I keep a gift file (document/notes app/whatever) for my closest loved ones. Mentions of things they want, interests and ideas go into it all year for birthday and Christmas.
Also doing this and having ideas ready can allow you to shop sales & Black Friday! Or have plenty of time to make the perfect handmade thing you've figured out 😌
Aug 30, 2024
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gift giving is such a classy thing imo and it’s so so good when you get it right.
for people I’ve known for a long time I keep a running list in my notes app with things I know they will like. If you don’t know, ask someone who is close with them. Give them a list of options and make them help you narrow it down.
Good general categories for when you’re just not sure are:
- books (ask someone what they like)
- kitchen items (find out whether they’re a baker, a cake person, a bread person, etc)
- outdoorsy shit if they’re outdoorsy (multi tools, portable cooking equipment etc)
- cute boxes or bags (if the thing is cheap or practical but boring you can give it that wow factor by putting it inside something else)
Finally, if you have no idea what to get someone, most people will appreciate a really nice jar of small-batch jam or honey. Or movie vouchers.
Nov 30, 2024
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not just because its their bday or something!!!
Feb 3, 2024
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this idea of "you don't owe anyone anything" came about through the social media therapists that try to diagnose complete strangers with a multitude of issues and complexes. all it has done has made selfish people more selfish and divided us as a community.
you do not owe everyone everything, but if you consider yourself part of a community, a society, you do owe everyone something. at a base level you owe people kindness, respect (as long as they haven't lost the right to it), and basic human decency. you owe your loved ones even more.
stop being selfish and rude in the name of treating your so-called "people pleasing."
Feb 4, 2025
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if one more person tells me to turn one of my hobbies into a business i'm gonna go berserk. is nothing sacred in this late stage capitalist hellscape?
Feb 3, 2025
i swear to god it's upside down and it makes me giggle every time i see it. pls tell me you see it too and i'm not crazy. i love it.
Mar 24, 2025