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Competence
Sounds bizarre, but as an anxious, ambitious, type A girlie, there’s nothing that I want more than to be able to shut my brain off and have someone ‘provide’ for me (not financially, but like, metaphorically). Able to fix my computer problem? Hot. Can build me a shelf? Hot. Just generally knows how to navigate the world? Very hot. Competence is underrated.
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@camila-santana
Feb 27, 2025
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@gforce2001
good god you just read my mind. i struggle with motivation to make actual meals so when someone is competent at cooking especially I'm like wow :D
Mar 9, 2025
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@something_vague
wow you just described something i didnt even realize was important to me but now that im reading out loud.. neeeeeed that in my life
Feb 27, 2025
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@capyboppy
the Thirst Aid Kit podcast hosts called this “competency kink” and i think about it constantly. (SO hot)
Feb 27, 2025
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@moonbeams
yes!! I want to know that a person can handle things because I know I can and if they can't then I always will be
Feb 27, 2025

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@taterhole
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Intelligence on a man is so hot lmao, if a man can hold a conversation with me about anything I'm THERE if he cant, my brain just kind of...shuts.....off....
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moving between languageS kinda brain
so hot. Confidence, obviously and staying rational in sudden, unexpected situations, also very hot.
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