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Confidence > hotness
Sure I’m hot but it doesn’t define me and physicality is ephemeral and fleeting. so much of what we admire in a person and find attractive is actually rooted in confidence, which has a whole host of other enriching benefits to your life beyond your appearance ❤️
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@taterhole
Dec 20, 2024
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@joeldcross
taterhole guide on how to be confident pls
Dec 20, 2024
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@taterhole
joeldcross this is going to sound soooo trite and simplistic but the short answer is that I think it really is a matter of learning to love and accept yourself + fake it as you make it and realize that lots of people around you also feel nervous and uncertain, everywhere you go!! Many people have just learned to overcome that and put on a brave face 🫶
Dec 21, 2024
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@shegoestoanotherschool
both matter but hotness doesn’t hit even close to as hard without confidence
Dec 20, 2024
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