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on reading: The Emotion I Didn’t Expect as a New Parent: Regret

Girl. This was crazy to read 🧍🏽‍♀️

@mariamaria

Feb 26, 2025

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@ugliestbinch

Huh. He really put that out there for his daughter to find. men will do anything but go to therapy.

Feb 26, 2025

@mariamaria

ugliestbinch yeah, like I understand not glamorizing parenthood and all that but damn 🧍🏽‍♀️the whole time I was just thinking “he’s gonna kill this child eventually”

Feb 26, 2025

@ugliestbinch

mariamaria right?? I was on board until he kept talking. I can absolutely understand regretting a huge decision like that but he was so nonchalant about it. And to put it out in the NY TIMES as if his daughter wont ever see that??

Feb 26, 2025

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