you just have to go through it. break ups are transformative but if you ever need help in the process, definitely ask for it. especially from ones who know you the best/you care for the most.
Feb 21, 2025
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break ups suck ass, it's important to mourn the loss. This might not help you, but when i was broken up with, i told my self that i'm a boat. This boat is still, it's sat in the middle of the ocean (the unknown) and it's just bobbing up and down. It doesn't need to go anywhere, it doesn't need to know how it got there, it's just there. After time, you'll want to start getting some wind in the sails and aiming for land, and so one day, you'll start moving on.
I'm nearly 7 months from my break up and i still think about and of her everyday. It hurts but this is just the way i'm dealing with it. crying and journaling helped me!
May 14, 2025
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my love and I parted ways a few months ago after our 5th anniversary. has truly been the hardest period of my entire life to slowly pick up the pieces and move on, a process that is nowhere near over even as much as I want it to be.
my biggest piece of advice is to surrender to the pain. don’t let yourself be drawn into anger and hatred, just let the crumbling happen. let the tears flow! talk to your friends about it over and over again. sit in silence with the people you love. fall asleep on the couch once in a while.
don’t bother with “why” — it’s a useless question, trust me.
Feb 20, 2025
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I like to remember that time is on your side, it will get easier as time goes by just for nature of it. So focusing on going through the day-to-day the best you can while being kind to yourself and letting the days past is what helped me.
It’s not easy, you have to go through the grief to come up on the other side.
But stick with the things that make your present more bearable and you WILL come up on the other side.
For me it was doing things for myself: listening to music, visiting close friends, cooking for myself, going on walks on nature, spending time alone and bored and finding new things I liked and enjoying my own company was life changing.
The loneliness is rough but it can be a great teacher (at least I like to think something had to come out of all that pain).
I guess it really depends on the break up the narratives you are telling yourself right now, but if you can be mindful about them, observe them, and let go of trying to understand and control everything they get less cruel. Right now you just need to survive and receive some kindness, later on you can build the story around it (Without the fog of the pain around it).
And for the love of god cut contact with them, their family and friends, at least for a while. rebuild yourself outside their zone of influence. Show vulnerability if you can, it can bring great support and lending ears, BE KIND TO YOURSELF (although have in mind sometimes over indulgence is not kind).
You will get through it, time is on your side.
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