Rec | BEING GENDERFLUID.

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so epic i get to experience a range of human experience by feeling different genders day to day but also crushes your soul when you dont feel boy enough or girl enough or neutral enough. its so changing that nothing i do especially to my appearance is ever good enough to make me still feel good about it later when my gender feels completely different. but also i shouldnt complain on here, i came to this website to look on the bright side of life and find things to uplift me. so maybe ill come back and stop complaining when i find a way to please my near constant dysphoria. just felt like shouting into a void idk.

@willtiism

Feb 17, 2025

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@verygoodvalentina

i feel this on the daily. smtg that helps a lot is imagining myself as a blank canvas and allowing the clothes i wear & the way i style my hair/makeup to colour the canvas in a way that feels more representative of how i feel inside. it’s definitely not a clear cut solution, but it does stop me from hyper analyzing my physical appearance and aspects of myself that i simply cannot change at the moment. i know who i am inside even if it doesn’t 100% look the way i want to and i feel like that gives me a bit more assurance to be present & focus less on how i am being perceived by the world.

Feb 17, 2025

@willtiism

verygoodvalentina thank you for sharing this !! i definitely try to tell myself often that my appearance doesnt define my gender, and that im valid no matter how i present, but it does get hard after a while when i stay looking feminine even when i feel masculine .. this summer will hopefully be a time to reinvent my look and give myself a way to "customize my character" more easily, i might get a shorter haircut (maybe a mullet or something ?) and buy more baggy clothes (helps me feel more masculine) because rn all i have is a bob haircut and mostly close-fitting clothes xP

Feb 18, 2025

@verygoodvalentina

willtiism may you find the best baggy clothes & get the coolest haircut that makes you feel amazing 🫶🫶

Feb 18, 2025

@knitzsche

my partner said I collect pronouns like sonic rings and if something hits me too hard they go flying out of me like loose change. it do be hard sometimes but it can also be a very amusing and whimsical human experience.

Feb 17, 2025

@willtiism

knitzsche what a silly thing to read and feel so profoundly connected to. i understand that soso much and feel it in my soul.. thank you for sharing that and making me feel less alone out here 🥹

Feb 17, 2025

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