she was starting grad school, I said can I come with? still here 6+1/2 years later.
doing a big move with someone I trust made the process less daunting, and we knew there was no commitment to live together for forever
When I'm done with my stint in grad school, I'll probably do something similar: find someone moving to join in with, or wait till a friend in a city is looking for a new lease/roommate and suggest I move in with them
Wishing you safe transit to a happier place <3
Feb 9, 2025
Related Recs
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Part rec, part documenting my headspace right now.
My last few moves in my city have been chaotic and unwanted, to say the least. After an incredibly stressful loss of my last apartment, I was so privileged to have been able to spend my last three years living alone for the first time in my life, healing myself and figuring out how to navigate life coming out of active survival mode.
I leave my little studio apartment in less than two weeks to move into a new place, choice I got to make for myself, and a living situation I get to plan for, rather than having been forced into.
I've always been able to make a home for myself anywhere I go, but this is the first time I get to do it because I made the choice to, not despite my circumstances.
It's feeling good!
May 18, 2025
new to Los Angeles and been hopping around the city; why commit to one neighborhood when I can check it all out 2 months at a time. also I get to take care of HER at this oneπ»
Aug 5, 2024
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this March i moved out from my parents' to my own appartment, at first it was scary bc i didn't think I would be able to afford living by myself and keep my two cats, sometimes we're tight on money but so far it's been the best year I can think of, I've learned a lot from living on my own and I was able to do lots of things that I couldn't if I had stayed with my parents, like focusing on my own and on my projects and travelling with friends I'm really looking forward to next year <33
Dec 31, 2024
Top Recs from @fetadata
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1. Scroll the "everyone" feed (almost completely ignore that home/friends page)
2. Like gratuitously
3. Follow people who post things you like
4. I try to be brave and comment when feeling moved
I don't search or look for anything in particular, personally, unless I'm about to post something and curious if others have done so already. Just let the river float by and enjoy the ride
Feb 8, 2025
Mar 27, 2025
I know slavoj zizek is a fucking loser now, but his movie A Pervert's Guide to Ideology was the first piece of media that began to rub away the sheen/shellac of pretense that the world operates smoothly. It was my first time really engaging with a Marxian analysis and sitting with it. I was in high school, and it set me up to care about critical theory. From this movie, I'd read Mark Fisher's really quick book "Capitalist Realism: is there no alternative?" Fisher grounds a lot of his theory in culture/media in a very similar way to Zizek.
After that, I'd follow recommendations made by others in the thread!
Jun 18, 2024