I found this photo of myself circa ~1994 and loved my energy in it. It’s a tight crop from a larger photo that included my parents. Not sure if this was genuine or a bit of a pose (I can be a ham) but the ennui captures more of my internal energy as an adult than I felt as a kid. Because while I’m a pretty hopeful, positive person, this photo is also how the world - and the experience of being a person in it - can make me feel at least once a day.
Jan 31, 2025
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She feels like the most me version of me that I’m trying to get in touch with, so why not give her some time in public
Feb 7, 2024
I don't think I have a current photo that is my fave, but at one point this was the most photogenic picture I'd taken. I hadn't cut my hair all year because I wasn't going to salons and had thrown out my clippers so a buzzcut was a no-go, and I looked more feminine and "pretty". I often struggle with feeling good in my presentation genderwise vs looking attractive and feeling like I have to choose one or the other. I want to like a picture of me now as much as I liked this one, without any weird "this looks so good but it doesn't look like *me*" feelings.
May 24, 2025
May 24, 2025
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I’m not a parent and do not plan to be. Kids can wear me out fast with their high energy and noise level; it leaves me very over-stimulated. But it’s pretty extreme when people say they ”hate kids” and I often feel it’s a reflection of their childhood and beliefs around how kids “should be.” That they were expected to be quiet, obedient, and out of the way by their parents when they were little.
It’s fucking hard to be a kid. You’re dealing with a rapidly-changing body and underdeveloped brain, managed by flawed adults who are enforcing boundaries that you do not understand. It’s confusing and hard to manage your feelings and honestly just a lot.
People are impatient with kids when they‘re brand new to the world and figuring it all out, and this is a time kids need a friend the most. Children can also be teachers to adults with how they are less habituated to the world. They teach us how to be free and open-hearted and silly and imaginative.
A good practice is to be kinder and gentler with kids. If that feels difficult, start with gentleness toward your inner child. Maybe that’s the child in your life that needs your attention and kindness most.
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May 6, 2025
I meant to post this yesterday. Absolutely beautiful morning for walk.
This morning is also beautiful but in a spring rain kind of way.
Mar 23, 2025