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having a thing you are known for is incredibly chic. can be anything really. perhaps how you answer the phone, an accessory you wear, a scent you have been wearing for years, a pair of glasses frames, one very cool vintage jacket, cowboy boots, always carrying a book in your purse, a nail or lip color, a go-to order at the bar or coffeeshop. find your thing, and make it yours. wear it everyday or every season.
i got into wearing cute little scarves around my neck, and have been especially enamored with this secondhand silk scarf i picked up at BOOK OFF in Tokyo last March. i feel so happy, cool, chic, and put together when i wear it. it’s very me, all year round.
Jan 27, 2025
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I have pink hair and I think that is really my thing. people spot me from across the way because of my hair.
Jan 28, 2025
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- natural eyebrows
- second hand books
- writing in cursive
- keeping your hair its natural texture
- brown mascara
- long names
- playing card games
- second hand leather
- using a paper planner
- short manicured nails
- funky pants
- wicker bags
- vintage embroidery on clothing
- having a signature scent
- playing an instrument
- wearing what you love even if it’s not trending
- vintage style winter coats
- using lip liner
- run through purses
- solo outings
- vintage dresses
Jun 12, 2024
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my coworkers say my orange telfar medium sized bag has kind of become a signature of mine. which is neat! but its covered in scuff marks and ink stains and has a misshapen bottom.
here’s the thing though: i honestly love the bag more as it looks more worn. it has a story that’s intertwined with my own story.
being put together and clean and neat and polished is fun (trust me, im a virgo). but the people in life who compel me the most are those who look rooted in their essence and can tell a story about everything they’ve got on. someone with their own unique swag that they have curated over time.
tell me about the scuff mark on your boots. or your lucky necklace with three stones missing. or the flowers you painted on your jeans that are now fading. i live for it!
Mar 6, 2024
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If you have a silhouette that makes you feel comfortable, try experimenting within that silhouette. Add a cool jacket or sweater. Experiment with shoes. Accessorize with scarves or hats (i have a tiny scarf addiction).
Once you find accessories that you love, you can carry them over into outfits that are further outside your comfort zone. If you're wearing something you would normally never wear, but you are also wearing your favorite bandana/hat/jacket/shoes, it's easier to feel like yourself.
Apr 21, 2025
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i’ve been trying to articulate why i enjoy this space so much. yes, the UX is reminiscent of Tumblr and the early days of the internet. and there’s genuine sincerity and vulnerability on here that makes it feel really cozy and real, which i haven’t felt online in at least a decade.
but i think what’s undergirding my love of this space is how anti-capitalist it feels. most of the recs everyone shares are vibe-checks, quality of life shifts, meditations and offers, music and movies, just plain good art. i don’t feel compelled to buy anything when i come here. i feel excited and pumped to be a cheerleader, find connection, find common ground. and FWIW the recs i’ve shared that have gotten the most traction are my suggestions for leading a less capitalistic / consumerist life (quitting Amazon, getting off of Spotify, building community to take care of you and your things).
all of this is to say, i love it here and i love you guys.
Feb 7, 2025
i canceled my Spotify account over the summer and have spent the last few months rebuilding my digital music library on a refurbished iPod Touch. reading critiques of the app (and it’s enshittification), i realized i wasn’t even sure of my own musical tastes and preferences. i had stopped picking for myself, stopped seeking out new music, ceasing to know how to choose what i wanted or articulate what i like.
breaking free from the algorithm has been such a joy! i’m borrowing gobs of music from the library, rebuilding my old playlists, and consuming more music than i have in years. and better yet, my data isn’t being tracked by Spotify and i own what’s in my personal library. further, my receptors are more open when i’m out in the world exposed to music, searching for recommendations in an organic way.
Jan 16, 2025
hear me out—this one might feel impossible, but i quit purchasing items on Amazon in 2018 and cancelled my GoodReads account shortly after.
i did some serious reflection and realized i’d become super reliant upon, and frankly, quite used to the instant gratification of purchasing something and knowing i’d have it within a day. that’s not normal. the labor practices, economics, and environmental impacts of getting what you want from the internet delivered quickly and right to your door are skewed. i was filling a void in myself with mindless purchases.
i’m aware that they service a huge swath of the internet (Amazon Web Services), own Whole Foods and Abe Books, and will likely take over more businesses we like and rely on. weaning off and avoiding entirely is very very hard, but it can also be a measured decision. that said, i know that it is a privilege to abstain from Amazon. i am able bodied, i don’t have kids, i have access to a car, i live in an urban environment with access to a lot of stuff at my fingertips. but making the choice to break out of the Amazon loop has ultimately been better for my pocketbook and better for my relationship to these mega-tech-companies that have their fingers in everything.
in contrast, i’m becoming more interested in alternate economies, like bartering and sharing. i love the idea of having commonly shared tools and items (tool libraries are very cool). we don’t need to own it all, we have each other.
interested in exploring more? the zine pictured below is a great start, and summarizes a much larger book by the same author on how to resist the leviathan that is Amazon.
Jan 22, 2025