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my dad whom i love more than anyone on earth is in the ICU and my family hasn’t gotten regular sleep or proper diet. every day is so hard and we have to keep going? i fly back to LA to continue working but it’s so hard leaving him feeling like anything could happen… fuck capitalism fr i should b able to stay w my family without losing my job
Jan 27, 2025
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🕊Today would have been my dad’s 76th birthday. He died 5 years ago. We let him go, then the world shut down. It’s taken 5 years for me to even be able to reflect on that time and not feel sick.
I grieved my father years before his actual death. It still hit me in ways I never could have expected. I connected more with him as he was dying than I did most of my life. I talk to his spirit more now than I ever did when he was alive. I’m still untangling from the things he did, but that’s the task of all children. I can only hope all the work I’ve done and continue to do ends the generation trauma with me, and my children are spared.
I’m fine with the peace I’ve found in his death. The grief I feel is not adjusting to life without him, but rather I didn’t get more of his goodness when he was alive. His own trauma and horrible choices made that impossible. So, I now get that goodness through his memory- listening to the music he loved, wearing his shirts I inherited, telling my kids he’s a guardian angel for him. I can only hope his spirit has found peace too.
I grieved my father years before his actual death. It still hit me in ways I never could have expected. I connected more with him as he was dying than I did most of my life. I talk to his spirit more now than I ever did when he was alive. I’m still untangling from the things he did, but that’s the task of all children. I can only hope all the work I’ve done and continue to do ends the generation trauma with me, and my children are spared.
I’m fine with the peace I’ve found in his death. The grief I feel is not adjusting to life without him, but rather I didn’t get more of his goodness when he was alive. His own trauma and horrible choices made that impossible. So, I now get that goodness through his memory- listening to the music he loved, wearing his shirts I inherited, telling my kids he’s a guardian angel for him. I can only hope his spirit has found peace too.
Jul 19, 2025
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❤️My heart goes out to you and your family, this kind of this is never easy and is generally pretty fucking terrible all around. I lost my mom in 2018 after a pretty prolonged and slow to cease battle with cancer.
When she was in end-of-life care something small that helped her feel a bit better was trying to make the space as homey as possible. Lots of pictures, her favorite blanket, and a friend of hers even brought some large stuffed animals that lived on her bed. It was something small that helped in the immediate moment.
I also echo everyone here saying to prepare for the grief but also prepare to sit with it for longer than you think you’ll need. I was only home for about a week after she passed before going back to school across the country, and not having my family/hometown network to grieve with really stunted and prolonged my healing process.
Also a bit bleak, but my mom and I were able to have a sort of ”closing” convo where we said goodbyes, and she told me her wishes for me, etc. if you’re able, it was a really powerful conversation to have and something I hold close when I’m having a particularly hard grief day (which still happen 6 years out! All part of the process)💛
When she was in end-of-life care something small that helped her feel a bit better was trying to make the space as homey as possible. Lots of pictures, her favorite blanket, and a friend of hers even brought some large stuffed animals that lived on her bed. It was something small that helped in the immediate moment.
I also echo everyone here saying to prepare for the grief but also prepare to sit with it for longer than you think you’ll need. I was only home for about a week after she passed before going back to school across the country, and not having my family/hometown network to grieve with really stunted and prolonged my healing process.
Also a bit bleak, but my mom and I were able to have a sort of ”closing” convo where we said goodbyes, and she told me her wishes for me, etc. if you’re able, it was a really powerful conversation to have and something I hold close when I’m having a particularly hard grief day (which still happen 6 years out! All part of the process)💛
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😔My dad passed young.
My mom and brother both passed the same week (my brother from suicide).
My best friend died of cancer in 2021. After getting clean bloodwork just five weeks before.
The one truism about life is that death is always near. So loss is an inevitable part of our lives on this planet.
Make the most of every day.
Loss may be my baggage 🧳 but it is also my salvation.
If I love you, it is for real, and it is forever. ❤️
I try to always keep that thought in my heart. Where it belongs. And isn’t much like baggage at all.
Jul 18, 2024
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😃my dad passed last feb back in my hometown and after 2 wks i flew back to work in LA, with no family. lately the grief has been overwhelming but i have no time to rest and i’m trying my best to take care of myself like hygiene, chores, eating, exercise. even though i’m so burnt out and all i wanna do is rot for 3 days. help
May 27, 2025
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🍪it’s the perfect cap to any meal . crispy edges, gooey center. i usually prefer fruit + cream desserts but nothing truly beats a fresh chocolate chip cookie. don’t let it be fluffy and soft, eat a muffin if that’s the texture ur looking for and leave the classic cookie out of it ! why must u play God…
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