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Remind yourself that other people feel uncertain and anxious more often than you think

Some people are just better at handling it than others. Remember that it’s likely nobody is thinking about you as much as you’re thinking about yourself! If people are judging you, this is something you can either learn and grow from if you do something legitimately wrong, or they’re just being rude and critical for no reason and that’s a reflection on them. Give others grace, patience, and the benefit of the doubt and hopefully they’ll do the same for you. Not everybody will like you and that’s okay! And as much as we would like to think we can and as much effort as some may put into it, we can never truly control the way others perceive us. Find ways to develop self esteem and confidence that comes from within based off of traits you admire and respect about yourself regardless of what other people think. I would recommend that you undergo DIY exposure therapy by throwing yourself into lots of social scenarios big and small that make you blush and shake and feel like you want to crawl out of your skin. Go into public places and force yourself to make pleasant small talk with strangers + share something small about yourself with them! Ask people about themselves! Go to a party or an event and make it a goal to talk to X number of people. But also remember that you don’t have to share your whole personality with everyone you meet and depending on the context and circumstances it may not even be appropriate to do so. So maybe start with identifying aspects of your personality you want to show most consistently with everyone you meet and go from there!

@taterhole

May 16, 2024

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it’s how you carry yourself, not how you look

I realized a few years ago that my desire and attempts to look a certain way were failing. It wasn’t realistic, and it was making me feel inauthentic, empty, and unhappy. Cameras capture every thing, so it’s easy to dwell on imperfections. But that’s not how people experience you. It’s not how others think about you or see you. Imagine how critical you are of yourself and imagine someone else being that critical of another person. You’d think there’s something wrong with them! Who focuses on a person’s looks that much! Get a life you misery! That’s how we treat ourselves. There’s an epidemic happening where everyone wants and is going out and getting the same face. The same body. It’s so boring. Your “flaws”—as society has taught you to think about them—are not flaws. They make you unique. Memorable. They make you beautiful. To love yourself is active resistance in an economy fueled by obsession over flaws and unhappiness. One of the actors in White Lotus, Aimee Lou Woods has some objectively flawed teeth. But that’s what makes her so unique, so special. So cute! They make her attractive because she’s unapologetic about them. Embracing my big goofy smile and big ears and crinkled crows feet makes me feel comfortable in my own skin. That feeling is so powerful. It spreads to other parts of your life and attracts people to you. It’s how you carry yourself, how you move in the world, engage with other people— not how you look.

@Shadowbeni

Mar 29, 2025

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accepting yourself

Look, first and foremost, it’s normal to want to look cool. We all want to fit in, be accepted, be validated and feel like we belong, it’s a natural human thing. But the only way out is through. You have to accept and love yourself. You have to embrace your cringe, and your wonders, and your quirks. You have to learn to be proud of them. You have to validate yourself and understand that by choosing to be you, you will lose some things. Maybe some friends, maybe some validation. But you will get so much more. There’s nothing cooler than someone who is unafraid of being who they are. That’s the key, I guess. And it’s freaking hard, so it’s a process. Just start with the basics. Dress how you want to dress, look how you want to look, and experiment with it, see how you feel, face the rejection with open arms. Be cringe, but be authentic.

@matestinha

Nov 18, 2024

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coming out of work at 5.40 and there’s still light

I love the night vibes but it’s also lovely to finally see a bit of light at that time, after about 4 months of pitch black darkness. Makes the commute back home happier and less tiring.

@sniffle

Feb 25, 2025

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sasha

as seen in my pfp, my beautiful cat Sasha in a photo I just took today 😸

@sniffle

Jan 18, 2025

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charlie’s faves and unfaves

Nice ask, made me think about what’s important to me - FAVES: Animals (especially cats) Nature Friends + fam Museums History (especially classical) Art Star Wars Indiana Jones DC Comics Videogames Physical media LEGO Improv Fencing Ultimate Frisbee Tennis F1 Phone (as unhealthy as it is) Youtube Empathy Dancing while alone Late nights - UNFAVES: When it’s too cold When it’s too hot The beach Ice cream (I am the antethesis of a summer person for someone born in July) human feet Getting up early stopping the unfave list here before I give TMI :p

@sniffle

Jan 23, 2025

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