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LISTENING AND BEING ATTENTIVE

absolutely nothing sexier or more caring than deciding to give someone your rapt and undivided attention in a world full of distracting bright flashing things where everyone at any given moment is consuming two or three things at once. plus the feeling of someone remembering something minor you said super offhandedly (like a childhood anecdote or a snack you were craving) and bringing it up in conversation again days later makes you feel so seen and understood, literally the loveliest feeling ever.

@nowhere

Oct 28, 2024

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most things!

The Moon Random compliments Happy old people Gentle breezes Acoustic guitar The smell of fresh baked bread Second hand shops Dogs Petrichor Beautiful houses Postcards Plants growing in weird places Girls who are unconventionally pretty Nostalgia Appreciation That feeling of stillness in the early morning Feeling seen Good food Holidays I could go on!

@layla

Jan 14, 2025

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eyes lighting up

you know the glow someone has when they’re talking about something they love/are interested in. gets me every single time. it’s so spellbinding. and the last friend i had a crush on, took my word as gospel. i would mention a song to him and in front of me he would save the song and the album, add it to his favourite playlist and do a proper listen to the artist and tell me all about his favs when we would see next. same with movies, i made him a list of some of my favs and he would watch them and report back in depth to me.

@tiff

Jul 15, 2024

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Stalker

Is a Soviet sci-fi film (by Andrew Tarkowski) that follows three guys who head into this mysterious area called "The Zone." There’s supposedly a room there that grants your deepest wish, but it’s a weird, eerie place that messes with your mind. The whole thing feels surreal and philosophical, making you think about life, desires, and what we’re all really after. It’s haunting, beautifully shot, and sticks with you long after it’s over

@chilly_olive_heron

Oct 26, 2024

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Weltschmerz

In German, Weltschmerz-literally “world-pain”-is that melancholic realization that the world, with all its flaws, suffering, and brokenness, falls painfully short of how we feel it should be. It’s not just personal sadness, it’s more like an intellectual reckoning with the gap between reality and its potential beauty. Right now, the world’s on fire (literally and figuratively), and Weltschmerz captures the vibe perfectly. Think of it as a big, collective sigh-beautifully sad, hopelessly existential, but also oddly comforting, like listening to a Lana Del Rey song. Or the 2012 tumblr era. When I was a teenager, I’d feel down out of nowhere-like a weird, weighty sadness without a clear cause. My mom would look at me and say, “Ahhh, Weltschmerz,” like it explained everything. And honestly? It kind of did. It wasn’t about a bad grade or drama with friends. It was just there, this intangible ache tied to something bigger, like feeling the weight of the world without knowing why. the twist is: Weltschmerz, rooted in Romanticism, isn’t entirely hopeless. Yeah, it aches, but it’s the kind of ache that inspires. Great art, big ideas, it all comes from that mix of sadness and longing for something better. So yeah, Weltschmerz might be beautifully tragic, but it’s also a quiet relief, like sighing out everything heavy and feeling a little more connected, a little more human!

@chilly_olive_heron

Jan 12, 2025

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Being a “good enough mother”

This might sound a bit theoretical, but I just love the whole concept of the “good enough mother”. It’s a psychological concept from Donald Winnicott that was very influential in psychoanalytic theory. In a nutshell, it says you don’t need to be a perfect parent - just "good enough." Early on, you give your baby a lot of attention and meet their every need, but as they grow, you slowly step back a little. This gentle shift helps them deal with small frustrations, gain independence, and learn resilience. It’s about showing them they're loved while also preparing them for life’s ups and downs. No perfection required. In fact, being "good enough" actually is a necessary step in the child’s development.

@chilly_olive_heron

Nov 18, 2024