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absolutely nothing sexier or more caring than deciding to give someone your rapt and undivided attention in a world full of distracting bright flashing things where everyone at any given moment is consuming two or three things at once. plus the feeling of someone remembering something minor you said super offhandedly (like a childhood anecdote or a snack you were craving) and bringing it up in conversation again days later makes you feel so seen and understood, literally the loveliest feeling ever.
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— untangling a necklace with a needle for someone
(my dad used to do this for me when I was younger, felt like such a delicate ritual)
— sitting on a couch with someone (aka your current crush) and both caressing a cat that’s between you and the other person
…a silent „we’re both here, coexisting, vibing„ moment
— braiding someone’s hair
(the gentle tug, the trust, the rhythm)
— tuning a violin or a guitar
(recently watched my friend do this and she was so intimate with her instrument, fine-tuning every string, taking her time… it was kinda mesmerizing)
— asking someone about their perfume
(I noticed you, I want to remember how you smell)
— people in busy public places that close their eyes and hold still for a moment just to soak in some precious sunrays
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Jan 19, 2025
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you know the glow someone has when they’re talking about something they love/are interested in. gets me every single time. it’s so spellbinding.
and the last friend i had a crush on, took my word as gospel. i would mention a song to him and in front of me he would save the song and the album, add it to his favourite playlist and do a proper listen to the artist and tell me all about his favs when we would see next. same with movies, i made him a list of some of my favs and he would watch them and report back in depth to me.
Jul 15, 2024
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The best compliments for me are always really specific. in those moment I feel really seen, and it’s the being seen I think rather than the necessarily the compliment that hits! Three examples:
- my producer when working on my EP said “you have a great ear, Nancy”
- a guy in my writers group when I’d not long joined told me “the comments you make on others’ work is always a joy to listen to and I always find myself agreeing. you can tell it comes from compassion not judgement”
- my boyfriend when we’d just started seeing each other said “i like the texture of your brain” and then made a meme of his shitposting page saying “your brain texture pleases me”. that was the height of romance.
Feb 22, 2024
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was so so sad last night and found myself at the movies. started sobbing the moment i sat in the chair for reasons entirely unrelated to the film (although it was very sad). kind of relished in it though bc the cinema unlike buses/trains/cafes is like the only public space where you wont be scorned for crying. its the only acceptable place outside of the comfort of your home for you to sit down and have a good wail because everyone will think ur crying about the movie and no one will judge u.
Nov 28, 2024
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a punk rock road movie by gregg araki about a couple that pick up a drifter. weirdness and chaos ensue. impeccable soundtrack and the costuming was waaaay ahead of its time. its like challengers on crack. one of my favourite flicks and was my teenage gateway into cool girl underground films. be warned though it gets pretty violent at times!
Oct 29, 2024
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