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knee-length skirts

I’m trying to pinpoint what is making me so uncomfortable about the discourse around modest dressing. The common thought is that modesty is an indicator of rising conservatism, but right now, I see the trends as a correlation that does not imply causation.  A lot of the current modest silhouettes started in queer, leftist spaces. I remember the rise of “cottage core” around 2020 was largely led by lesbians. Women in flowy milkmaid dresses foraging for herbs and berries in a hazy forest. It felt like a movement reclaiming the femininity of mother nature after enduring so much masculine energy from the political onslaught being fed to us. On the opposite end of the spectrum, the menswear trend can also be attributed to queer women. It’s inherently liberal for a woman to wear men’s clothing. Maybe it’s a case of intention vs impact. Or of Kristin Stewart vs Chanel.  I also have opinions on how this general rise in conservatism is a response to the constant overstimulation of American society. People are resorting to an “every man for themselves” rhetoric, sacrificing empathy for comfort. This has translated into the trad-wife idolization. What’s more comfortable than being a trophy wife. I understand that fashion reflects the political climate, so I see what’s happening. I only wish there was more nuance to the discussion. Modesty is not inherently red. 

@haileyd4wn

Mar 17, 2025

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Bad feminist by roxanne gay

Nothing new if you’re into feminist discourse but has some funny moments and interest points

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Mar 1, 2024

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inessential woman by eliszabeth v. spelman

This book blends conversation on feminism within the context of other social issues and gives insight into feminist philosophy whilst also serving as analysis for the dominant paradigms in feminist debate, such as which women are centered in the critique and analysis of gender, sexuality etc in society

@ngaatee

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Never changing

My dad teases me about how when I was a little kid, my favorite thing to do when I was on the landline phone with somebody—be it a relative or one of my best friends—was to breathlessly describe the things that were in my bedroom so that they could have a mental picture of everything I loved and chose to surround myself with, and where I sat at that moment in time. Perfectly Imperfect reminds me of that so thanks for always listening and for sharing with me too 💌

@taterhole

Feb 23, 2025

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SURFING THE TIDES OF THE EVERYONE TAB

I am a woman of the people

@taterhole

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Rejecting the Commodification of the Self

I’ve been thinking about how much of social media is centered around curating our self-image. When selfies first became popular, they were dismissed as vain and vapid—a critique often rooted in misogyny—but now, the way we craft our online selves feels more like creating monuments. We try to signal our individuality, hoping to be seen and understood, but ironically, I think this widens the gap between how others perceive us and who we really are. Instead of fostering connection, it can invite projection and misinterpretation—preconceived notions, prefab labels, and stereotypes. Worse, individuality has become branded and commodified, reducing our identities to products for others to consume. On most platforms, validation often comes from how well you can curate and present your image—selfies, aesthetic branding, and lifestyle content tend to dominate. High engagement is tied to visibility, not necessarily depth or substance. But I think spaces like PI.FYI show that there’s another way: where connection is built on shared ideas, tastes, and interests rather than surface-level content. It’s refreshing to be part of a community that values thoughts over optics. By sharing so few images of myself, I’ve found that it gives others room to focus on my ideas and voice. When I do share an image, it feels intentional—something that contributes to the story I want to tell rather than defining it. Sharing less allows me to express who I am beyond appearance. For women, especially, sharing less can be a radical act in a world where the default is to objectify ourselves. It resists the pressure to center appearance, focusing instead on what truly matters: our thoughts, voices, and authenticity. I’ve posted a handful of pictures of myself in 2,500 posts because I care more about showing who I am than how I look. In trying to be seen, are we making it harder for others to truly know us? It’s a question worth considering.

@taterhole

Dec 27, 2024