With my visiting older relative because I found out she’s Chalamet-pilled after taking her to see A Complete Unknown (do not really recommend but it did make me inexplicably horny despite being such a bland movie but maybe it was the guest-hosting-induced involuntary celibacy) and she is culturally impoverished so I had to get something of some substance in. On New Year’s Eve she made us watch Holidate despite the fact that she had already seen it and she told us the entire plot during the first ten minutes then proceeded to explain everything that was about to happen throughout the movie. Luckily there wasn’t a lot to spoil there and the viewing experience could not have been worse to begin with. Have yet to watch Babygirl which is unjust but I will remediate this. Apologies for the stream-of-consciousness tangent I’m still processing
Jan 2, 2025
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saw it yday by myself, havent read anything, and only talked to one friend abt it so far, but initial reaction: i really liked it. at first i was kind of ”yawn white feminism” “yawn voyeuristic dom fantasy” but i liked the grayness of it and how clumsy their sub dom relationship was at first. that felt honest and funny. and though i guess the sex was important to the movie, it wasn’t really about that. ultimately, it seemed that puritanism and corporate feminism and the masking it encourages became the villain. and that i can get behind. i look forward to watching it again or hearing from others and seeing how my perspective changes.
also i’ll watch nicole kidman in anything really and the shots of harrison dickinson in the tank w the little gold chain is my kinda female gaze.
Jan 5, 2025
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it was my introduction to the original story and i was writing about how it came at the perfect time in my life just earlier. i’m constantly thinking about certain scenes or certain lines from it. i saw myself in jo march in every way and before watching it i had never felt so impacted by a movie and especially by one i saw at the cinema (i rarely go there). i then made this movie part of my whole personality so much that it’s my username everywhere except for here & all my friends associate me with it and always buy me little women related items <3
Mar 11, 2025
* Tiny Furniture (2010), dir. Lena Dunham — Girls before Girls!!!
“After graduating from film school, Aura (Lena Dunham) returns to New York to live with her photographer mother, Siri (Laurie Simmons), and her sister, Nadine (Grace Dunham), who has just finished high school. Aura is directionless and wonders where to go next in her career and her life. She takes a job in a restaurant and tries unsuccessfully to develop relationships with men, including Keith (David Call), a chef where she works, and cult Internet star Jed (Alex Karpovsky).”
* Young Adult (2011), dir. Diablo Cody — one of my favorites…
“Mavis Gary (Charlize Theron) is a successful writer of teen literature who returns to her hometown with a dual mission: to relive her glory days and steal away her now-married high-school sweetheart (Patrick Wilson). However, her mission does not go exactly to plan, and she finds her homecoming more problematic than she expected. Instead, Mavis forms an unusual bond with a former classmate (Patton Oswalt), who has also found it difficult to move past high school.”
* Frances Ha (2012), dir. Noah Baumbach — the dinner party scene especially is so real
“A story that follows a New York woman, who doesn't really have an apartment. She apprentices for a dance company although she's not really a dancer, and throws herself headlong into her dreams.”
Oct 7, 2024
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“Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage.”
— Anaïs Nin
This is uncharacteristically raw and personal, even for me, and pretty heavy! I know many of you have seen me posting through it and I feel safe to talk about it openly now that I’ve safely landed at the start of my new life. It’s honestly even a little bit embarrassing but I think it’s important to share.
I’ve never publicly mentioned it on here, but I have a husband; as of Friday, we’d have been together for 11 years, and we’ve been married for 3 years as of 2/22. I realize now that I wanted to explore what I looked like outside of my relationship with him because I had lost that. This is why PI.FYI has been so meaningful to me as a space to express myself and connect with people—to rediscover my voice.
I had been living a lie this entire time, to others but worst of all to myself. He’s been verbally and emotionally abusive, physically but without touching me, to the point that every day I spent with him I was in danger. I’ve been shrinking myself and walking on eggshells to avoid making him insecure and provoking his casual put-downs and fits of rage, while hanging on for dear life to the threads of good I could see.
I’ve wanted so badly to leave, more than anything, but I felt like there was no way out and that this was just something I would need to endure indefinitely—but someone who is so very dear to me helped me see that I have wings to fly, not by acting as my savior but by reminding me of my own power. The emotional safety they built and the gentle care they showed me made me feel like I could open up to them. With their encouragement I was brave enough to tell the truth to my friends, my family, my boss, and they have received me with warm, loving and open arms and rallied to support and protect me. The financial and logistical aspects were the most intimidating to me and it’s going to be tough for a while but I’m going to be better than okay!
Now I’m opening up to you. This isn’t the only abuse I’ve suffered in my life, and my old therapist told me she believed it was my mission to share my strength and light with others to inspire them and show them that change is possible.
I hope that by sharing this, I can reach even just one person who is going through something similar and show that they are not alone, and they are not weak. People with certain backgrounds may be more vulnerable to abuse, but it can happen to anyone. It thrives in darkness, shame, and isolation—and breaking that silence is the first step toward freedom.
Leaving is the scariest thing I have ever done but I have so many angels around me, and I am endlessly grateful. Thank you for being here with me đź’Ś
Mar 16, 2025
My dad teases me about how when I was a little kid, my favorite thing to do when I was on the landline phone with somebody—be it a relative or one of my best friends—was to breathlessly describe the things that were in my bedroom so that they could have a mental picture of everything I loved and chose to surround myself with, and where I sat at that moment in time. Perfectly Imperfect reminds me of that so thanks for always listening and for sharing with me too 💌
Feb 23, 2025
Schedule sent my resignation email for the morning, effective immediately âś…đź’…
Feb 27, 2025