First off ā wife and I are NOT divorcing. Just tossing that out there. I just think that as an 8-year-married person I am a VETERAN at this now and itās only appropriate for me to bestow my wisdom upon you lesser folk.
Hereās how you save your (likely) failing union: SPLIT UP THE MUGS.
Sort of like a divorce āwho gets whatā situation, sit down and make it clear which mug belongs to who. Since Iām taller, I get the higher shelf and Iāve stacked it with aesthetic pleasing & purposeful mugs. Thereās some Japanese milk glass, some hasami porcelain, and even some melamine ā your boy knows and appreciates his materials. Sadly my wife doesnāt share that passion as sheās chosen to fill her bottom shelf with āsentimental valueā mugs; some were gifted to her by friends, others were purchased on weekends away, some are from her fav little shops, etc.
You see the divide right? Iām very intentional about cool mugs, sheās very into lame mugs ā clearly an issue. By splitting these down the middle, not only can we avoid conflict, but weāre got the mugs portion down locked in case she ever does want to divorce me (highly unlikely).
In all seriousness, Iāve grown to appreciate my wife more because of this, and see how she thinks. When we have guests over, she always tries to assign a mug to a person because of a moment or memory. It might be a Disney mug to a friend that was on our 2020 pre-Covid trip. It might be a corny mug her mom got her from Ross over the holidays that she keeps to give to her mom when sheās over for coffee, a nice little gesture. So am I heartless??? NO. Iām just different. I like to bring the best materials and experiences to our guests. My friend who loves black coffee will appreciate it better with a porcelain mug. My industrial design obsessed coworker will love feeling a niche & entirely unnecessary military grade plastic mug thatās somehow approved to be used for warm liquids??? Anyways ā LOOK, weāre different and we love our differences and we love people differently. And splitting the mugs really allowed me to learn about how my wife loves people differently than I do, and love her even more for it.
