āItās a brilliant, and quite rare, way of thinking but it makes such perfect sense. That we have an instinct, driven by our shared genetics, to love our children and family ā for some, this is a duty love ā but, when we focus our love on our friends, weāre actively choosing to do so. Weāre taking our precious time and energy, and consciously committing it to them, so important are they to us.ā
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āFriends can be our sources of intimacy and nonjudgmental support, they can be our lifeās companions, they can be our family and our co-parent. Put bluntly, theyāre our survival. But this means that we must decide to actively nurture and invest in them to benefit from their many rewards. Our unique ability to love many beings in many ways means that we all have the opportunity for love in our lives. We just have to lift our eyes to the horizon and broaden our perspective to see all the love that is on offer. And for many of us that will mean celebrating, treasuring and reasserting the love we have for our friends.ā
Anna Machin, āTreasure Themā (via Aeon)
Nov 22, 2024
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Cherish them. Thank them. Write them. Invite them to parts unknown. Share music, art, and food. Celebrate together; cry together. Share your hopes and fears; the mundane and extraordinary; the minutia and the barrenness of your life as it occurs. Savor every single moment you have together.
And donāt forget to tell them you love them ā to the point you feel silly. The quality of your friendships dictate the quality of your life.
Mar 18, 2025
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Maybe even too much!!
Iām really big on platonic declarations of love and devotion. I love my friends so much and it is truly such a joy to know each and every one of them and I never want any of them to doubt that for even a second. Like, love and friendship are genuinely all we have at the end of the day and how beautiful is it that we get to love and be loved???
Mar 19, 2025
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Friends are the lifeline of who I am. Genuinely, I cannot begin to express how much my life has changed because of the many wonderful and amazing individuals Iāve had the pleasure of calling friends.
But lately, itās been hard to conceptualize the idea that I might hold the same level of importance in other peopleās lives.
There are people I consider close friends
and even a couple Iād call my best friends. And I fuck with that sappy shit, Iāll never shy away from telling a nigga how much they mean to me.
But even then, there are days when I canāt shake the feeling that Iām easier to leave than I am to keep. That maybe Iāve gotten too comfortable. Or that Iāve forgotten how fleeting presence can be and how even the warmest juiciest ātrust the processā bond can vanish into silence.
The thought that I could be expendable is terrifying. It makes me antsy, worried, and scared that you might not be here a year from now ultimately I just hope that one day, Iāll believe my presence is enough. And when I do I hope youāll be there to overthink about it with me
Iāll always love you big dogsā¤ļø
Jun 21, 2025
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Iām not a parent and do not plan to be. Kids can wear me out fast with their high energy and noise level; it leaves me very over-stimulated. But itās pretty extreme when people say they āhate kidsā and I often feel itās a reflection of their childhood and beliefs around how kids āshould be.ā That they were expected to be quiet, obedient, and out of the way by their parents when they were little.
Itās fucking hard to be a kid. Youāre dealing with a rapidly-changing body and underdeveloped brain, managed by flawed adults who are enforcing boundaries that you do not understand. Itās confusing and hard to manage your feelings and honestly just a lot.
People are impatient with kids when theyāre brand new to the world and figuring it all out, and this is a time kids need a friend the most. Children can also be teachers to adults with how they are less habituated to the world. They teach us how to be free and open-hearted and silly and imaginative.
A good practice is to be kinder and gentler with kids. If that feels difficult, start with gentleness toward your inner child. Maybe thatās the child in your life that needs your attention and kindness most.
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I meant to post this yesterday. Absolutely beautiful morning for walk.
This morning is also beautiful but in a spring rain kind of way.
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