i've spent most of the year focusing on self-love and also valuing my friendships and putting the work and time into them... i feel better about myself than i have in years – i haven't really felt that loneliness from a lack of romance because i still experience intimacy in a different way. we go for dinner, to the cinema, to exhibitions, have little holidays and sleepovers... but now that i do feel so great, i feel like i've unlocked a new version of myself that's a bit more flirty and carefree lol. my friends are great and beautiful, and it turns out their other friends are too. as long as there's no history or anything you're complicating, i vote to have a look around and get to know your friends' friends!
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And you’re set for life (with the added effort of maintaining it).
I used to try to surround myself with people who I thought were cool and also tried so bad to fit in. I still do feel conscious about that sometimes when I front for a person I place on a pedestal or really am infatuated with (in a platonic way).
I’ve also had friends I get easily frustrated with who point out my mistakes as jokes but I’ve realised are super flawed and insecure. It becomes a relationship where you slowly turn into a projection of them. (I’m not sure how to phrase it). And I’m the kind that forgives very easily the moment someone is nice to me.
Howeverrrrr… over the past few years and more so over the past year I found a group of people I could be open and comfortable with… and I have to say an open and fulfilling relationship with the right people and friends will make you a much better person overall. I’ve also been so inspired by the circle of friends I’ve got now.
It’s not necessarily the friends who always ask you to go out to shop or hang but the friends who you do things with and talk about anything with.
Gratefully & Gratituously,
I love my friends.
Feb 18, 2024
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I love meeting people and then making an effort to become one on one friends with them. Some of my best friends I’ve made in adulthood have been chance encounters where I decided i needed to learn more about that person and consequently sought them out. These have blossomed into very fulfilling and creatively inspiring friendships. I don’t tend to work very well in friendship groups so this is the model that I have found works for me.
Nov 11, 2024
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Some former mutuals have recently expressed their interest in getting to know me and it’s made me feel really good about myself! one was a match on a dating app (😽) and one was a spontaneous invite to a group hang that has now blossomed into several other hangs both independently and in a group setting. It feels nice to have irl people say “hey i’d like to get to know you better,” especially since i made it a goal to seek intimacy and connection more this summer. ♥️♥️♥️
Aug 22, 2024
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a few people have said this to me and it's honestly made me so happy and such a great feeling to know you make other people feel at ease too. i really am a people person and just love getting to know anyone and everyone whether it's people's friends, family, partners etc.
Oct 12, 2024
Sep 23, 2024
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love giving the people a little taste of my dresser, a cassette collection, postcards, prints lol..... be mysterious (or maybe it's the opposite) don't give them everything straight away, share little details and i'm sure hot guy will find something to reply to xoxo
Sep 26, 2024