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And you’re set for life (with the added effort of maintaining it).
I used to try to surround myself with people who I thought were cool and also tried so bad to fit in. I still do feel conscious about that sometimes when I front for a person I place on a pedestal or really am infatuated with (in a platonic way).
I’ve also had friends I get easily frustrated with who point out my mistakes as jokes but I’ve realised are super flawed and insecure. It becomes a relationship where you slowly turn into a projection of them. (I’m not sure how to phrase it). And I’m the kind that forgives very easily the moment someone is nice to me.
Howeverrrrr… over the past few years and more so over the past year I found a group of people I could be open and comfortable with… and I have to say an open and fulfilling relationship with the right people and friends will make you a much better person overall. I’ve also been so inspired by the circle of friends I’ve got now.
It’s not necessarily the friends who always ask you to go out to shop or hang but the friends who you do things with and talk about anything with.
Gratefully & Gratituously,
I love my friends.
Feb 18, 2024
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Speaking to a friendship aspect: finding my people was initially exhilarating. Being seen and accepted, feeling joyful and excited to spend time together, feeling like a team in the world rather than competitors are all things my first experiences with my best friends felt like. But there were also points where we pissed each other off or hurt each other or grew apart. what set apart these Friendships was being able to talk about it and wanting to be open about our hurt or anger. We reciprocally put in work to stay connected. I could trust my friends would listen to me and try to do better. i could Also trust that I would be forgiven when I needed to do better. To this day, they are the most transformative relationships I’ve had in adulthood and I’m always so grateful for them.
Feb 18, 2025
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Speaking to a friendship aspect: finding my people was initially exhilarating. Being seen and accepted, feeling joyful and excited to spend time together, feeling like a team in the world rather than competitors are all things my first experiences with my best friends felt like. But there were also points where we pissed each other off or hurt each other or grew apart. what set apart these Friendships was being able to talk about it and wanting to be open about our hurt or anger. We reciprocally put in work to stay connected. I could trust my friends would listen to me and try to do better. i could Also trust that I would be forgiven when I needed to do better. To this day, they are the most transformative relationships I’ve had in adulthood and I’m always so grateful for them.
Feb 18, 2025
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I love meeting people and then making an effort to become one on one friends with them. Some of my best friends I’ve made in adulthood have been chance encounters where I decided i needed to learn more about that person and consequently sought them out. These have blossomed into very fulfilling and creatively inspiring friendships. I don’t tend to work very well in friendship groups so this is the model that I have found works for me.
Nov 11, 2024
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If you like Indian Curry… this is a one up. Alternatively… Butter Chicken. My go to when I have prata with a side of Lassi and Coin Prata.
Mar 8, 2024
With the checkerboard at the back? That’s right. I love using them unironically. And I love pictures of rocks.
Feb 22, 2024
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Been having the shittiest job situation for a while. Being paid minimum wage to do a myriad of different things I did not apply to do (only because they asked for my resume and saw I had other skill sets and without asking slowly integrated it into my work load).
Initially because I was more keen on earning the money for a trip I have planned in a month. I just said yes to everything. They slowly started assuming I wasn’t opposed to doing anything and would give me random assignments. This also included messaging me during off work hours to tell me (not ask me) to do work… which I was very shocked by but I thought it was extra money so why not.
They also have this thing where they don’t ask and they assume my colleague and I’d schedules and without asking just tell us the day before to come in for work which is super unprofessional and disrespectful (imo).
Fell sick recently and they managed to somehow send me more work to do while telling me to rest up… which was somehow my final straw (Should have happened wayyyyyy before).
Now I just ignore their messages past a certain time and take my time to do the work. No more 7 day work week and working at ungodly hours. There’s no credit after all. If you’re being paid minimum wage and the work practice seems unethical… don’t be like me and set boundaries! (If you have the option to of course…)
Jun 7, 2024