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how does one stop feeling so lonely after moving back home from college early to take a gap year
i’m struggling

@colinmac

Oct 19, 2024

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@ganeev484

I did this too and I think keeping busy helped. Even if it was as simple as going to the park and having a chill day. I tried a lot of new hobbies I drew a lot, and cooked. And still tired to hang out with people as much as possible. Somthing that I needed to do especially in that time was try to not go on my phone, specifically social media, that only made my feeling worse. also I had to remind myself it’s ok to be lonely or alone it’s not a reflection on myself it’s just a chapter of my life.

Oct 19, 2024

@sillygirltypebeat

“The antidote for loneliness is to embrace loneliness. As in homeopathy, the wound is healed by swallowing a bit of the toxin itself. The paradox of relationship, which we in the Western world seem to hold as the cure for all ills, is that the more one can embrace one's separateness, the more one can live with oneself, the better relationship will be.“ - a quote from James Hollis that has helped me a lot through lonely phases of my life 🫶🏻 Calling up a friend helps too ☎️❤️

Oct 19, 2024

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