this involves DEVELOPING YOUR DISCERNMENT AND DISCOMFORT TOLERANCE SKILLS! is that person morally evil or just not your cup of tea? are they trying to make you feel uncomfortable or are they also maybe a little nervous and doing their best?
we could really change the landscape of what community looks like if we open ourselves up to the idea of consistently offering respect and dignity to others even when weβre not dying to become their best friend, and joyfully sharing space with someone we might not ever know more than as an acquaintance. those are members of your community too!
this also allows for change over time- in the individual and in your own perspective and capacity for connection.
