I am trying to learn to sit with rejection, look it square in the face, and still be okay.
Running away from painful things — shame, rejection, disappointments with myself or others — and not facing them has been a source of even worse pain and dysfunction.
Balancing these two things: "that really hurts" and "it does not define me" seems to be a healthier way to process.
Sep 25, 2024
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Resistance to inevitable change is a common source of suffering. Making a conscious commitment to acceptance can help you to reduce the resistance you embody every day. It can also raise your awareness of how and when you resist change.
Accept not just the truth that a breakup has occurred. Accept how you felt about the relationship from beginning to end. Accept the people you both were and the people you are now. Accept how you’ve changed or failed to change. Accept the pain that comes with vulnerability and need to remain vulnerable to grow. Accept your mistakes and their consequences. Accept your loss.
Feelings are often like clouds. If you run away from them, they may follow you for longer. If you sit with them, they will pass. Accept your clouds. They are impermanent.
Feb 16, 2025
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I swear it's not edgy! Learned recently that the time you're upset and in pain is when you're brain and heart is putting in the most work towards feeling better or getting over something. Learning that helped me to frame rough days as progress.
Feb 14, 2024
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The older I get the more interested I am in being a gracious loser. It's so easy to feel good when everything is going right, but how do I feel when things go wrong? Like, this morning I found out I didn't get an interview for a job I really wanted. It nearly ruined my entire day, which is crazy (!) because there's some many other things for me to be excited about. I just needed to take a second to sit with my feelings and really process everything.
The sky isn't falling, but it's cute you thought that.
Apr 8, 2024
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this is worthy of celebration: the lack of video—autoplay video, noisy inane video, panicky video, algorithmic, dumb video, rabbit hole video, any video—on pi.fyi is a good thing
Oct 5, 2024
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this is going to hurt — A LOT — but it's getting to the point where there's no other option
Mar 11, 2025